9 Signs a Scorpio Man Just Wants to Be Friends (+Some Tips)

The eighth sign of the zodiac planet, Scorpio, is the most interesting and evasive one to get in terms with. No wonder a Scorpio man is a living brain teaser with his impenetrable traits. He will come, talk, and conquer you with a few words and put you in a real fix to get through his mind.

Despite being a water element, a Scorpius man holds a box of fire in him. If you are into this mysterious personality and stung by his fiery bite of love, save time to read his mind like a devotee. 

A passionate Scorpio is a master of extremes. He will love and hate with equal vehemence. So, there will be no middle ground for him to settle in. 

Be it a lover or a friend, he will be one of a kind with his loyalty, compassion, and unmatched charisma. 

Therefore, to know whether he is fighting back his feelings for you or is happy staying as a friend is one devil of a task. It is this elusive enigma that makes him coveted and highly sought after among women.

Let's brainstorm the ideas and clues by sticking around this cryptic man for a longer while. This article will dictate the tips and tricks to catch hold of as the signs of his unreadable mind.

Prominent signs that he just wants to be friends 

Zodiac signs bear a definite range of symbolic hints of a character. Scorpio, being one of them, will give you the signs of the personality a man with this water sign holds. 

The complex coupes of his mind will trick you with its extraordinary conundrum. To find his real motive, hence, will be a maze game you have to master. 

It is no easy to break the walls and reach the uncharted territories of his soul. Yet, you can't sit relaxed, being enamored by his charm and exclusivity. Puzzled as hell, you need an immediate answer that would help you know him in and out.

Don't get mad about the process, as his zodiac sign will alleviate the rawness of apprehensions in you by revealing some of his anonymous feelings.

Come in the thick of the book by following the obvious signs with ‘exceptional’ patience. 

#1 He is not interested in your personal life

A Scorpio man is conscious of his boundaries in friendship. He knows where to stop and where to turn back from. He will hardly show any interest in your personal life if you are a friend and nothing more than that.

But the Scorpio man would be pretty inquisitive about your life if he wants a romantic connection to sprout with you. He will notice you and wouldn't miss a thing about you, pay all his attention to your details, ranging from your body language to people you love to admire, and ask frequent questions to discover your inner beauty.

When you can clearly see his lack of eagerness to know you better, it's a potential sign that he hasn't grown any passionate feelings for you.

For example, suppose you have a habit of carrying a small camera with you when you are out. Had he been in love with you, he would see that, remember, and ask you in a roundabout way when you are alone by saying, ‘Do you love photography because I have noticed you always have a camera with you? What do you keep clicking? Is it faces and emotions?’ 

But a friend Scorpio is never mindful of what you do or whom you mingle with. He thinks it's none of his business to be aware of your personal details and refrains from intruding. In the same instance with a friend, therefore, there will be no marks of interest running on his face to see you fostering a special knack for photography. 

If you start to mention the same to grab his attention, he may be unresponsive and less attentive.

#2 He is curt and abrupt in a conversation

Scorpio characterizes meaningful and profound conversations for romantic partners only. In case you are not that, he would be curt and abrupt with you in having a talk.

Whether it is a meeting in person or a virtual communication through texts, he is in no way meant for doing small talks with a friend. He will shy away with brief replies whenever you send him long sentences, leaving you with no concrete conclusion.

His answers will be one-word sentences that may prove to be uttered without the flavor of romance he would have expressed if you were the love of his life.

He is fond of discussing only the relevant matters with a friend, while with his romantic partner, he would prefer elaborate dialogues and hour-long chats. 

It is because he feels connected to his special person through his favorite discussions that he stays comfortable with exchanging thoughts on varied subjects.

He is never a talker, but note the difference between his approach to a friend and a lover by the way he engages himself in a verbal interaction. 

If you have already experienced getting into concise sessions of words with him, you might know what I meant. 

The same guy will be a changed man, spending time in discourses in which you would be surprised to see him involved and engrossed with a flood of phrases to send and receive if the person happens to be his favorite lady.

#3 He remains private about his feelings

If you are struggling with confusion to know your Scorpio man, it will be the trickiest venture, I must say. He is a complex character with an intricate design of intrigues and unfathomable vagueness. So, it will be clever to move slow and go by the visible hints.

The nature of ambiguity is an element that makes them a rare find among the other sun signs. He is secretive and loves to stay guarded about what he perceives, thinks, and processes in his mind.

With people whom he wants to keep in the buffering zone of his heart, he is discrete and reserved. He never allows his emotions to flow off-limit. He can control them like a born expert in front of his friends. 

On the contrary, if he wants a romantic relationship with a woman, he would let his emotions run wild by sharing his private space with her, though in a gradual manner. 

If you want him to confide in you or divulge much about his personal life, it will certainly draw a blank as he would skilfully distract you to other things to avoid referring to his secrets.

So, next time you come near your very own Scorpio guy, don't forget to catch his air of secrecy as an indication of staying in a friend zone with you. 

#4 He prefers being a friend with you if you are a colleague

The intelligent bent of a Scorpio man is curated to work hard and focus on professional sides. They are driven to unleash their absolute adroitness in pursuing their ambitions.

If he shares the same workspace with you, he would probably think better off being a friend since he won't wish to blend his professional life with his personal emotions.

As he is a man led by careeristic motives, he won't take the risk of putting his work in question by having a design on one of his colleagues.

A close observation of the Scorpius guy might reveal that he would have taken a romantic interest in you if you were someone out of his work front.

The workaholic Scorpio doesn't want to prioritize his personal weakness over his targeted goals. He would consciously and thoughtfully stay away from getting hooked on a coworker in the anticipation of an unexpected setback.

Try coming on a discussion with your Scorpio friend, and you might end up learning that he is seeking a promising future in terms of his professional success and not for a romantic partner right now, especially with a fellow worker.

#5 He is apathetic to physical contact

High physical energy is inherent in Scorpio men. They are fiery in terms of making out with their partners and deepening the pleasure. Romance is incomplete for them without a tactile connection. 

A visible absence of the urge to come into close proximity and touch you will definitely speak of a platonic relationship he must be expecting out of you. 

Yes, the most obvious sign of the guy with a Scorpio sign is that he can not resist the physical craving for his beloved and will wait to be stimulated to get into her bed.

The popular Astro site astrology.com has claimed that Scorpio men can be extremely sensual with their beloved once they start taking things seriously with the woman.

Once he is attracted to you and wants to take it forward, he will start making implicit touches and sensual contacts suggestive of his romantic inclination. 

He will look for ways to strike meaningful strokes and continue to try having access to your intimate areas. 

The contrast between a friendly touch and a romantic one won't be missed by you when he will either stay distant and remotely interested in coming close to you or will be happy to get a light hug or give a slight pat on the head.

Let's play a guessing game by assuming that you are among a crowd of common friends with him at the same place. You can see how he shifts from the spotlight and remains in the background, securing a safe, private corner for himself, yards away from you, despite the opportunity to sit next to you.

If he had a soft place for you, he wouldn't have skipped a chance to cherish those moments of sacred shared breaths. 

#6 He won't go out with you alone

Here is an unmistakable sign of a Scorpio man who wants mere friendship from you and avoids romantic interest on purpose. 

In general, the Scorpius is known to be keen on meeting his partner alone. He gets excited and eager for a private rendezvous where his lady would join him, and they would get to enjoy each other's company.

Even in a place full of a throng of people, he would manage to take you to a less crowded spot and have some personal time. 

There will be a desire to interact with you separately, and for that, he might arrange for a brief hang-out in cafes, plan to watch movies, or explore new places with you.

But when you are just a friend and nothing more with him, he will deliberately prefer group meetings to evade seeing you in private. 

He may make excuses for his busy schedule or other prior work when you ask him to go out. Or you may find him actively trying to prevent situations and occasions where he might have to face you alone. 

His focus will be on distancing himself from the reasons that can bring you together in a private mode so that he can keep a comfortable boundary with you and maintain the vibe of a non-romantic relationship as an affirmation of friendship.

#7 He doesn't show jealousy

Jealousy in a relationship redefines the essence of love. So, when a guy gets jealous of the people around you with whom you are comfortable or put in your list of priorities, it shows how affected he becomes by their presence.

It's the same feeling of uneasiness that a Scorpio fellow goes through when you talk about other guys. The marks of jealousy spread all over his facial expression to hear about your male friends or a specific man you seem to admire a lot.

On the other hand, if he shares a friendship with you, his reactions to the same circumstances will be of indifference or of something completely reversed.

The moment you try to gauge his interest by mentioning special guys or a handsome man you are fascinated by, there will be no jealous response. He will be all okay with the arrival of other guys in the conversation with a casual tone.

Imagine you speak highly of a guy or cook up a story where you met a man and suddenly felt attracted to him. 

Your Scorpio chap will most probably hear you out with utmost interest to encourage you in the end for taking a few more advances to the fictitious guy. Or he may be paying no special attention at all to your story to feel envious.

#8 He refers to his dating experience with other women

What else do you need, sweetie, to know that he is just not interested? 

You learn that he is dating other women, and it is he who shared the experience with you. There would be no doubts left if he refers to other girls with whom he might be feeling extra special and wants to spend time with. 

Scorpio men are very serious and faithful to their partners. If they indeed expect a lifelong commitment from a woman and envision a future to share with her, no one would be able to match their devotion and loyalty in that regard. 

They won't flirt or give false hopes to any other girl if they are not up for anything romantic with them. Unless they are engaged in a long-term partnership, they won't declare it either to others. 

Hence, when he himself claims to be romantically involved with another girl, you can't have your hopes high that he might like you as a soulmate. His dating life will be brought up time and again to assure you that he is far from being fond of you.

Again, he may be the type of a guy who would ask you for friendly advice about how he should approach the girl he might have fallen for. This will surely re-establish the truth that he is not going to have a passionate relationship with you.

#9 His gestures will be friendly and non-romantic

There are a thousand of incredible ways in which a guy chooses to express his love to his partner. Non-verbal gestures are the preferred ones to communicate the flame of passion among people who are lovestruck. 

The Scorpios are no exception to this adorable practice. They are avid lovers when it comes to evoking a sense of exotic feeling through romantic acts.

They are intense individuals who will cast piercing glances at you when they are drawn to you. Their subtle innuendos will impress you whenever they are around. And their generous compliments will clearly show you that he is in love with you.

But with a friend, the Scorpio guy is more likely to be flat-toned and non-romantic. His actions will be devoid of the fervor that you might have noticed if he were to hint you for an intimate partnership. 

He will rarely feel like complimenting you, and when he does, it will be meager praise with lukewarm overtones. 

How about drawing an example to get this clarified?

• A lover Scorpio will say: ‘Your brain is a treasure trove of wit and intellect. You awe me, inspire me, and amaze me at every step.’ 

• A friend Scorpio would rather say: ‘Your memory is good, work hard to make it better.’ 

• A Scorpio lover will announce: ‘Your smile radiates life when you are happy, it simply keeps the whole world alive.’ 

• Whereas a friend Scorpio will say: ‘You have a nice smile, but don't use it without a reason.’

Why Scorpio men choose friendship over a romantic relationship 

As their sun signs suggest, a Scorpio man is too deep a character to get into a lasting frame of a romantic relationship. He will think ten times before he finally gives it an official seal. 

In most cases, he won't be ready to show you his flimsy self and purposely avoid taking the initiative for a potential love story. As we see him dismissive, we tend to judge him with mistaken ideas. 

But I would advise you to reflect on the possible reasons why he chooses to be a friend rather than a lover.

#1 They have past experiences of heartbreak

Scorpio men are less vocal about the hurts they might have been subjected to during their previous relationships. They prefer to hush things up until the right time and the right person arrives. 

But in a way, that turns them risk-averse about anything that can remind them of the same bitterness. They feel fine to stay aloof and maintain not-so-deep relationships with other women, preferably friendships to protect themselves.

It is their fundamental nature to fear commitment once they have been the victim of emotional heartaches by their former partners. They grow apathy toward the concept of love and romance out of their own emotional baggage that they hesitate to share with others.

But friendships are always safe. They know that a friend can never hurt them to the point of losing trust and faith in everyone. Instead, it is a friend who can help them process their past and provide comfort during their healing phase.

At times, they, too, get tired of getting rejected by their loved ones. And eventually, they find themselves developing a phobia of commitment. 

They are scared of the pain they may have to encounter if the women of their lives turn them down or break their trust. So, it is their own decision not to risk their heart with the temptation of dating someone. At the end of the day, they choose a painless friendship over a painful romance to stay content.

#2 They value independence

Scorpio men are characterized by their independence and love for freedom. They hate to be dictated to or instructed by anyone. Before entering a romantic relationship, their primary concern may lie in the possibility of being controlled by their partner. 

The same reason works behind their preference for keeping it in a friend zone since friends won't be demanding and ask for their active participation all the time.

Scorpios are the men who are born leaders and take charge of things by playing a lone hand. So, any interruption from outside is not appreciated by them. 

Knowing that they make a wise choice by remaining friends only because friendship will allow them to act independently and without the obligation to be answerable to anyone.

Romantic partners often become possessive and control freaks. Scorpio men can't accept this attitude since they value their personal space more than anything else. Anyone poking their nose or bossing around is never entertained by a Scorpio, even if it happens to be their other halves.

Friends to them are the most convenient people who never put them into the threat of being disapproved of based on their choice of living life. A Scorpio man knows friends would never curb their freedom to follow their dreams or personal aims but will always be there to provide selfless support for their decisions.

#3 They take time to test the water

Scorpio is a sign that denotes tremendous emotional investment. A Scorpio guy, therefore, stands for profoundness and loyalty as a partner. 

Because of their qualities, they possess a sense of superiority and think no one can actually equal them. To form a romantic relationship, they have to feel pursued by their ladies with moral strength and depth of character. They discard superficiality without a thought.

Taking all this into account, the Scorpios wish to take the time to cultivate shared values, interests, and hobbies with a woman.

Going through the stages of friendship, they assess the compatibility, trust, and mutual respect that are the most necessary cornerstones of a relationship.

Staying within the safe periphery of friendship, they express their vulnerability in order to consider the amount of relief and belief they might foster with the person. If she is a great friend to assure them of the emotional space and reliability, they think she would be equally deserving as a companion for life. 

To know whether it's a momentary attraction or a forever-kind-of-love, Scorpio man opts for a harmless period of friendship, when they can evaluate the relationship and the person as a whole and her true worth as their counterparts.

How to turn a Scorpio man into more than a friend

As you get to know, Scorpio is a zodiac sign that is associated with mystery and intensity, the man with this sun sign will reflect the same. He will be hard to catch if you lack the fitting qualities to win him. 

The journey from friendship to love with a Scorpio is, hence, an adventure in itself. Take one foot after the other cautiously to have him all to yourself.

Here is the road to his heart.

#1 Be genuine

Scorpios are overpowered by the heart-winning virtues like loyalty and genuineness. Those who are honest earn their respect immediately. So, it goes without saying that they can be turned into a lover by seeing these qualities in you.

They will figure out the fake mask of treachery and dishonesty with a gifted prowess to detect falsehood. If you are to draw him close, wear your heart on the sleeves.

Anything superficial is a big turn-off for them. They like women who do not fake their emotions and opinions and have the courage to bring their true selves to him. 

If you are besotted with a Scorpio guy and want to make him feel the same way for you, be yourself. He will never hold you in high regard if you try to play with his mind. And the bad news is he will see through your artificial behavior and dissociate himself from you in no time. 

The last person to love for signs like Scorpio is the one who depends on lies. Being terribly truthful goes a long way with Scorpio men. They do not forgive a liar, even when it is a minor careless lie.

He will be drawn like a moth to a flame as soon as he realizes you are a transparent girl with directness and blatant honesty. Get his soul tied to yours by your fearless act of speaking the truth in all situations without fearing the consequences, and trust me, he will belong to you.

#2 Let him take charge of things

Whether it is your relationship or other essential commitment, put him on the throne and let him lead the way. He has the leadership skills in him and waits to prove it like no other. This is why, when you open yourself up to him, he will be happy to take you in his wings.

He gets flattered only when you start to count on him as a dependable man who can protect others. The self-assertive Scorpio takes pride in being a protector who can come to your rescue when all efforts fail.

Without being hesitant, go on asking for his help and allow him to play the role of a savior. It will assert his sense of supremacy and make him fall for you.

Don't take me wrong when I say a Scorpio man loves to take charge, yet he will never be the one to dominate you. He will simply have your back to keep you safe and shield you from damage with his strong armor of care and affection. This will be the hour you have to embrace the warmth and fly into his protective arms as a lover.

#3 Accept his individuality

Sense of individuality is a dominant feature of a Scorpio guy. He acknowledges the value of independence, not only for himself but also for others. You have almost won him if you know how to admire his ideals of freedom.

In this context, remember that he is a stubborn guy who doesn't like to be contradicted. Therefore, he always searches for somebody who will be flexible with his inflexibility.

So, forcing him into doing something will be a strict no if you really want to spark his interest.

Earn some brownie points by offering him the opportunity to speak his mind and stay comfortable sharing his inner and outer shelves with you.

As he is a private man, you must respect his privacy and pre-set boundaries to stay in his good books. 

He is a free-spirited guy, and so whenever you try to pry on his wings of freedom, he will turn against you and make a retreat. The best thing to take him by your corner is to align with his desires and give it the go-ahead. 

#4 Emotional investment will be a turn-on

As discussed before, a Scorpio guy is marked by the way he prioritizes emotional connection. If you succeed in building a strong connection with him through your emotional investment, nothing like that.

He is ready to die for the lady who is not afraid to commit wholeheartedly. That is why trust is invaluable to them, and one who gains trust gains a special place in his heart. 

Your love, passion, and unflinching fidelity will beckon him to the world of romance, where you are eagerly waiting for him.  

Be gentle, kind, and compassionate. Let him know that he can have you by him whenever he needs someone trustworthy, and you would listen to him at the worst hours when he wishes to bare his soul to someone.

Men with Scorpio signs live through little joys. So, create memories and make him feel special with thoughtful notes and loving gestures. 

Shower him all the love you carry, and weave your way into his heart.

Tips

• Authenticity and honesty are the keys to the heart of a Scorpio man. He can sniff out your pretension from a distance and turn their back on you. Being the true self will be an added quality to earn his love.

• Strike up subjects that are deep and thoughtful to converse with him. 

• Express your support by all means. He will be touched to see that you are there for him in his need and necessity, no matter what happens.

• Honor the way he sets boundaries and never try to pry on them. He will start feeling respectful to see your sense of dignity.

• Building trust is a master stroke. Do it with all your genuine effort to stir the heartstrings of your Scorpio man.

• He is a man attracted to dynamism and zeal. Therefore, make your passion for life known to him in the best way you can.