If a Guy Kisses You Before He Leaves (Here Are 8 Secret Reasons)

Kisses are sweet tokens of love and care. You kiss someone when you hold them dear in your life. As such, if you have been recently kissed by a guy, it suggests that he has initiated a forum of unsaid expressions to you. It might get overwhelming to understand what his kiss means and what you can do to sustain this. 

Therefore, I bring to you this blog post, where I will deal with the dynamics of a kiss, and how it can change or upgrade the equation that you share with him. 

To know more, continue reading below. 

Reasons why a guy kisses you before he leaves 

He is attracted to you and has been waiting for the right moment to express it. The kiss was the initiation phase that will help him to talk about his feelings for you. A gesture of encouragement would be to meet his eyes. It would enable him to talk about his feelings more openly if he was initially hesitating at it. 

#1 He likes you 

If the guy has always had a crush on you, he would not let go of the opportunity to steal a kiss from you. He has been dreaming of this moment for a very long time to let go of it that easily. For all you know, the thought of your luscious lips has been keeping him up at night. Before attempting to confront him or giving a reaction, take your time to think, 

• “How did you feel?” 
• “Did you like the way he kissed you?” 
• “Have you been kissed like that before?”
• “Was his kiss carrying a message for you?” 
• “Did you find it disgusting and repelling so much so that now you don’t even want to see his face?” 

Answering these questions will help you in evaluating your feelings for him which is as important as understanding how he feels for you. For love to triumph, it has to be both ways. One-sided love often leads to misery. 

If you are wondering whether the guy is into you or did the kiss happened in the spur of the moment, look for the signs of confirmation.

Some signs that he likes you are: 

• He never misses an opportunity to spend time alone with you
• He always roots for you
• He blushes when you are around
• He is the first one to check your status
• People take you to be a couple

#2 He saw you after a long time 

If the guy is your good buddy or an old crush, and you met him after a long time without knowing when you will meet again, he might have used the opportunity to show you that you always reigned in his heart no matter the time or distance. 

This is quickly and meaningfully done by sealing the moment with a kiss. It is what the romantics call Carpe Diem! To seize the day without making any future promises. These are among the moments that you will retain and remember for long. It doesn’t take the shape or form of something that will dull you from the inside. You will always be excited to see this man again whenever you can. 

If you are thinking along the lines of future possibilities, I suggest you refrain from the thought unless the suggestion comes from the front. If the guy is mostly abroad and is more passionate about his work than anything else in life, it won’t do him justice to ask him to settle down. 

Instead of getting obsessed with the future, think of this as a diversion from reality. Plan out ways to make the most of the moment you get in hand with the guy. It could be an escape from reality. In the future, if you both don’t end with someone else, who knows you might make it a permanent equation. 

#3 He thought he had lost you 

If you had met with an accident or you had ghosted him, or you had threatened him with self-annihilating thoughts, he might have feared losing you. 

Hence, when he saw you, he sighed with relief. He didn’t think when you came before him and leaned forward to hold you and kiss you. 

This happens when the guy cares for you. He has been keeping his feelings for you a secret. It is mostly found in young crushes and amateur lovers. You know when you get one that he will stick devoted to you if provided with the opportunity to do so.

#4 He is very happy 

If the guy has achieved paramount success or is about to make a new beginning in his life, he is at a stage where things are happening the way he had always wanted them to be. 

The kiss as such is a token of love and respect where he thinks highly of you to have come to you to deposit an expression of his happiness, but perhaps not so in a romantic way. 

It is so because he is on the road that shall lead him to the pinnacle of success and fortune-making. He doesn't want to stop or let go of it in any manner. 

For some years to come, he will exhaust himself in the process of creating a repository for his loved ones. You shall experience both love and crush in this case.

#5 He is moving out of town 

If your best friend, your crush, or even a good friend is moving out of town and gets an opportunity to kiss you, he will not stop himself. For one reason that it is easily doable, for the next reason that he might not see you again. 

Even if you see each other again after ten years, it doesn't quite count because you both will find yourselves at two different stages by that time. You would be seeing someone else or might even have settled with someone else. 

Either of your career goals might have changed you as a person. Hence, the best way to bid farewell so that if ever you see him again, you do so with fond memories and a smile on your face is by kissing you before departing. 

Once you understand the subtle nuances of romance and the element of wooing in the acts and gestures, it will enable you to relish the experience more than usual.

#6 He wanted to see your reaction 

Perhaps the guy has been trying to get some clue from you on whether you are interested in hooking up with him or not. This happens when you give him mixed signals by not withdrawing yourself from his advances but never attempting them by yourself. 

You will realize that he had dropped continuous signals from his end to make it clear that you stirred an intimate interest in him. 

One such is when he always tells you before seeing you off that he wants to see you again soon. If you never asked him why he says that but out of politeness you too wish the same, he will think that you too are interested in him. To know more, click on the link below.

Related Read: When a Guy Says He Wants to See You Soon: Decoding Intentions

#7 You have been flirting 

If you have been flirting with each other and even texting for a while with the guy but neither of you has taken any initiative yet in this direction, the guy might think to at least give it a start with a kiss before he calls it a day. As a result, before departing from the party, or from the workplace, or your doorstep, he leans forward to kiss you. 

This shows that the guy is hooked on you, and has been thinking about you for a while now. Since you allowed him to kiss you, it also shows that you have been romantically inclined toward the guy, and have been having some thoughts on this line. 

If neither of you is committed and wants to proceed ahead with slow steps, this is your time. Once you get comfortable with each other, you can take steps to make this into something more concrete and lasting. You won’t have to use the guile of being needy. You will become more confident in talking about your emotions.

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#8 You are very comfortable with each other 

If you are already too comfortable with each other and it is only a matter of who is gonna propose first then sealing the feelings officially with a kiss is the best thing to do. If it is done publicly, it stands as proof of his affection for you. This is done when you have been arguing with him over some other girl and getting into petty fights, whereas, all he can think about is you. 

Your immediate reaction would be to giggle. However, if it is bent negatively, it is advisable to talk it out and get clear up front as to the status of your relationship and where are you planning to lead it.

Understanding the context of the kiss 

To better understand the situation, our primary focus should be on the nature of your relationship. Whether you are his friend or he looks upon you as a romantic partner will change the entire equation. Besides, it is important to understand what he thinks about you. There is always a chance of false impressions and misunderstandings. 

If he constantly shies in your company, is extra protective toward you, gives you a priority, keeps checking on you, never forgets any of your important dates, prays to god for you, talks to his friends about you, but you treat him as a friend and has always kept him friend-zoned in your mind, this will take the form of a one-sided romance. 

Such instances make people prone to depression. Such guys can be ultra-sensitive and must be dealt with care. Hence, being rude to him might not be a wise solution. If you feel that he is hoping for favors or a show of affection from your end, you will have to make him understand how you don’t find yourself on the same page as him. 

Circumstances surrounding the Kiss

The second thing to focus on over here is the circumstances surrounding the kiss. If the guy kissed you on a date, there is nothing too awkward about it. It should have been expected of him. If you are pondering on this then your concern is not the kiss. It is either the way he kissed you or something more latent. 

Type of kiss

The Type of Kiss also determines the guy’s intention. If he kissed you on your cheek, it would bear a different meaning than that if he kissed you on your lips. The former would imply a cute gesture to show that he finds you adorable. The latter, however, would ensure you of more romantic intent. If he kisses you on your forehead, it is a protective gesture. If the kiss is more quick or passionate, then it is friendly and by someone who crushes on you. 

Your reaction should be based on the type of kiss you received. If it isn’t anything passionate, stop trembling. If it isn’t on the lips, stop overestimating. 

What to do after the kiss 

Take your time to allow the moment to seep in. You might have returned home but mentally you are still dwelling on that moment. Use this to understand your feelings for him.

To know more, read below.

1. Evaluate your feelings for him 

Before running into a decision, or freaking out, take two deep breaths. Close your eyes and revisit the moment in your memory. Recall what happened and how exactly it took place. 

Think about how he held you when he leaned forward to kiss you, how he cornered you to secure the opportunity, was he being honest in his intentions or did he take you by surprise? 

Now estimate your feelings for him. Do you like what passed between you or do you regret it? What is the reason for feeling in this manner? Is it influenced by your prudence or the words and estimation of someone else, or that's how you truly feel for him? 

Don't get influenced by people or too affected by the situation. Take it slow. Detach yourself from the situation to have a clear sight. It will enable you to judge the guy's intention more carefully.

2. Talk to him about it 

It is okay to text the guy after reaching home to push him to talk about his feelings for you. A text as simple as “Hey, is everything okay?” will get you going. He is bound to take the indication and to set talking about what passed between both of you. 

In such a case, you won’t receive a reply from his end that says, “Why? What happened?” because by saying so he would be seen to retaliate from the subject. However, you can expect replies such as 

• “Things have never been better, you know!” 
• “Everything’s good on my side; let’s talk about what’s happening at your end.”
• “Things are bright, light, and beautiful!”
• “Ah! I’m sorry that I kissed you like that … I wasn’t thinking.”
• “I’m sorry that I kissed you without your permission. Do you mind? I just couldn’t control myself any longer.”

The type of reply will reflect the thought process beneath it. For instance, if the reply is the last point on the listicle above, it clearly shows that you have been the source of his fascination for a long time now. However, if he takes the opportunity to put forward an apology, it indicates that it was supposed to be a one-timer in his books. 

The first three responses on the listicle will show that he is arduous and adamant in his affection for you. He is not only flirting with you but also challenging you to do the same. In this case, you should not hold yourself back either. 

Here is no reason or good cause to be tongue-tied in this case. Unfreeze yourself from the moment and start talking. If you feel the same way for him, say it. If you need extra time in hand, tell him so. 

Don’t allow situations and circumstances of another dimension such as personal boundaries, religious concerns, family prudence, and the responsibilities you carry on your shoulders steal the pleasure of the blissful mirth of togetherness. Instead, be honest about your concerns without making it overwhelming for him. 

Begin with expressing your feelings and then talk about the limitations that pull you backward. If he extends his hand to accompany you nevertheless, he might be your man. If you are his first love or he is yours, this could be the most beautiful thing that you could have ever dreamt of. 

Think of all the lovely opportunities that it will bring to you. Let its power help you stay afloat and keep you happy. Learn to take the power to bear things from such fond equations rather than freaking out for the same. Love can be powerful, allow it to prove its magic.

3. Set boundaries 

The case turns different if you don’t have a liking toward the guy or the way he kissed you. Perhaps you are wondering if it’s too late to set boundaries. It isn’t. The moment you see a pattern emerging, and you don’t quite favor it, dismantle it. 

The process of dismantling can be done in various ways: 

• You can begin by avoiding the guy, but if he stands relentless in his chase for you, set boundaries with the help of a text. Message him to express why you are not interested in dating him
  • Try to be honest because that will sound more convincing. If the reason is your study or your type, tell him. If you crush on someone else, confess it. 
  • If it is about his personal choices or attributes that have limited you from dating him, don’t mince your words. Give it to him straight why you cannot be with him. 
  • If you are already dating but it is a secret or unofficial relationship, tell him that you are taken without telling him the name of the guy. He cannot force it out of you and if he tries to do, tell him that he is being ridiculous. 

• If you are interested in the guy but not in the overindulgent sway with which he proceeds the equation, take the speed control in your hands. Put it boldly to him, if we are dating, I want things to happen my way. 
  • While you do this, make sure that you don’t belittle him.
  • Begin with talking about things that you like and appreciate about him. These are the qualities due to which you intend to date him. 
  • Maintain your tone. If you sound overexcited, he might not take you seriously. 
  • After every point that you put forward, and before you launch the next concern, wait for him to nod or to give you a reaction so that he knows that you are not merely interested in talking unless the other person is interested in listening. 
  • Keep your points rooted in reality. Don’t take it to a level where he finds it impossible to date you.

Setting boundaries may not be an easy step to begin with but it is a necessary one. The day people start to understand its importance and vocalize their concerns, the population at large will work more on reasonable grounds rather than dream about fancy in the name of Cupid’s wings.

4. Seek advice 

If you go for therapy, don’t hesitate to talk about this. It could be promising and you might be having a beautiful start. Your therapist will help you to delve deeper into your relationship without fear. 

The first step towards anything novice and desirable is self-affirmation. Before you move on to seek validation or understand the dimensions of the other person, know your heart and understand how the change might be beneficial for you. 

At the same time, if you sense that you are moving against the wind, and it is more of a hunter-and-prey relationship than that of a mutual desire, you need to figure out ways to curb it. Remember, you don’t want to become a prized possession of a person. Your equation should be mutual and co-dependent. 

5. Wait to see what he does next time 

Why make a move at all if you are not sure what you want? Instead, wait a little longer. Let him take the next step too. It will be interesting to observe if he gets restless or runs the course gently without any haste. 

If it is the former, the course of love will be as easily diminished and brought to a halt as it initiates unless the passion is well channeled by you. If it is the latter, you are dealing with a mature person who won’t show off all his cards at once. 

He will first win your heart, and then slowly he will take you in his confidence. With such people, it is all about as long as you can hold yourself back. The moment you ease yourself, you shall fall deep. 

6. Plan your future 

Depending on the stage of life where the guy has found you, it is advisable to talk about short and long-term plans. How do you want to take it ahead, what are your career goals, how do your likes align with each other, what will be your course of action to keep the flame of love burning, what kind of partner shall you be for one another, these are some of the points that can make for a healthy relationship talk. 

It is not to make it overwhelming for either of you but to make it shockproof. Down the line, if you go long-term, you will appreciate these discussions. Whereas, if it is short-term, you will be able to part ways without holding any resentment for each other.

Quick tips 

• If the only thing that you can think about is the guy’s kiss, tell him so. Don’t hold yourself back when you want him as much as he wants you. The time is running out, and you want to make the most of it.

• Don’t get overexcited with the heightening of your senses lest you might not be able to make a prudent call. It is advisable to calm yourself down, take deep breaths, and focus on the larger frame of action. 

• Never underestimate a person’s past. Before commencing something new, learn about what has passed before you were a part of their life. It gives you leverage by helping you to deal with the situations more efficiently.