Why Does My Girlfriend Get Mad at Me So Easily? (Why + Tips)

If your girlfriend is the one to always make the first call, take the initiative to meet, pick the places to go out together, or check on you; whereas you stay carefree and cool because you got the girl you wanted, your attitude needs a check. As a result, your girlfriend is getting mad at you. 

Some signs show that the relationship is getting overwhelming for at least one of the partners. Getting mad readily and quickly is one of the signs. It doesn't mean that your girlfriend is out of love for you. It only means that your lack of initiative and effort has become overbearing for her. 

To know more about the signs and the remedies to cure it, continue reading below. 

Reasons why your girlfriend gets mad at you so easily 

You have been neglecting her recently, and she is used to your attention. This happens when your relationship is no more at the initial stage. It is drifting from always buzzing with excitement to making it a part of your life in a contended manner. 

Your girlfriend might take some time to understand this. Meanwhile, read below to find out what are the possible reasons that your girlfriend might be taking assumptions and getting mad at you. At the same time, use these parameters to keep a check on your behavior so that you don’t get on her drives and drive her crazy. After all, there are way better ways to do that, right? (Winks). Read below to find out more. 

#1 You are neglecting her 

Your girlfriend will be in a surge of constant piss-off if you don’t pay enough attention to her. Easy ways of paying attention to your girlfriend are as follows 

• Ask her about her day 
• Talk to her about her plans
• With her in the morning and before going to bed
• Remind her that you love her
• Develop a unique phrase or language with which you both can vibe with a click. Such phrases have to do with the way she talks and behaves. It should have a light-hearted humor attached to it. 
• Send her food
• Tag her on public posts to show her that you are lucky to have her in your life 
• Share memes with her
• Ask her to share selfies
• Take her out on dates
• Work hard to learn about her likes and dislikes, and after a while, you should be able to tell your girlfriend’s preferences

While these seem like baby steps and little things, they can take you a long way ahead. Even if your heart is inclined to draw gender equality here, remember, when a girl gives her heart to you, she will go to any extent to keep you happy. If she remains unmoved, then she doesn’t love you. 

If after all this also she complains then you will have to ask her what is it that she wants.

#2 You are always busy 

If you don’t have any time in the world to spend with your girlfriend, it is obvious that she will get busy. You are not allowed to pose as the busiest man on earth even if your life’s situations and circumstances have become so. 

Practice incorporating your girlfriend in your life in both highs and lows. If you are so busy because you are facing a crisis, take your girlfriend in confidence. You should not fear that she might abandon you on account of your crisis, for if she does, she is not worthy of your love and attention. Moreover, crises are always temporary, no matter, how strong they might feel on the face. 

Taking the love of your life in confidence about the problems that you might be facing in life will calm you down, open windows to new insights, and help you in becoming a better person. She will appreciate it and automatically will become calmer and less demanding. Don’t think of this as a patriarchal equation that dictates to be manly enough to not share your problems. The times have changed. Women appreciate it when you include them in the decision-making process. You should do the same.

If you are busy because you are having an affair, be human enough to break up with your girlfriend and set her free. It is a way to practice honesty towards yourself. If you are busy because you are planning a  surprise for your girlfriend, try not to leave her entirely clueless. Send her small tokens of love to pamper her in your way while you are not able to save enough time to be with her in person. Believe me, increasing the frequency of voice notes, video calls, texts, or sharing memes will ease the equation.

#3 You don’t ask her about her day 

If you have stopped taking an interest in your girlfriend’s life or asking her about her day and like to show that you care for her and not just get into her pants, it will improve your situation in the girlfriend’s matrix. The nitty-gritty of the fundamental exchanges of every day even if at the risk of monotony, helps to better the case because it also shows stability.

It gives the sign that what both of you are currently working on shall remain. It is permanent, and you will do everything in your capacity to not tarnish the equation. These are parts of unsaid expressions about the promises that you intend to keep, and the kind of boyfriend you wish on becoming. 

This shall show the privilege your girlfriend enjoys in choosing you as her boyfriend. Make her appreciate her choice. Let her feel that life is more beautiful when you are around. Don’t underestimate the importance of an everyday conversation, it possesses the ability to take your relationship to newer heights and helps you in emerging as the prototype of the ideal boyfriend. When you reach there, it is you who shall be the proudest of all.

#4 You don’t text her first 

If it has become your habit to not text her unless she texts you first, it might hurt your girlfriend's sentiments and she might decide to give you clues that she is mad at you. 

You should introspect on your behavior and conduct here. See how you can make your girlfriend's life better. With every contribution you make, you will strengthen your relationship by giving her more reasons to stick by.

Texting first and texting daily can be the way to go ahead. Don’t let your male ego spoil the relationship here. If she is grumpy over text, you might need to spend more time with her. It can be a result of hormonal disbalance. Are you two getting laid frequently? If not, you might want to increase the frequency to allow her to keep the hormones in check. 

#5 You are not pampering her 

The relationship gets monotonous if you don’t take turns pampering each other. It could be done by various means and ways. You can get her stuffed toys, take her out for a nail spa, appreciate her presence in your life, remind your love for her, get her flowers, cook her a dish, or give her a surprise.

These small things will go on a long way to make your relationship passionate and loving. The gestures are meant to show that you love her and hold her precious. She should feel that she has never been loved before in a similar manner. She will drop all her angst and frustration and will be rather consumed in your love.

Remember, love has a sweet filtration that is applied to all the five senses and overall to the way things are perceived. Once in love, it enables you to modify your likings and dislikings. It tames your stubbornness. 

You start caring for a person besides yourself so much that on days when you have to choose your beloved’s comfort before you, it is looked up as a great opportunity rather than discomfort.

#6 You are spending more time with other girls 

Women not only get jealous but also begin to feel insecure when their better half chooses to spend time with other women. She is disappointed and angry not just with you but also with herself because she allowed you to hurt her feelings and because she thought that she was a woman with an iron heart.

Try to understand the struggle towards women's empowerment in this context. If you are dating a woman who is self-made and independent, and yet she likes to spend time with you, it makes you a lucky man and means you are thought highly of by your girlfriend. 

Now, after giving you that much importance and regard, if she sees that you enjoy spending time with other women more than you do with yourself, think about how will she feel. Try to emphasize here. It is a great opportunity to make your empath game stronger. You need to connect with your girlfriend. Feel her wounds and be sorry for the ones that you might have caused carelessly. Learn to deal with the masters of heart with care. The knots once made are difficult to undo.

#7 You are trying to curb her space 

If your relationship has become overwhelming to the extent that you want everything that your girlfriend does to be related to you, she might not appreciate it. It might occur to her that you are curbing her space and that will make you an overly possessive boyfriend who lacks a bit of self-dignity because he doesn't trust his love or his girlfriend enough.

Giving space in a relationship is an important topic that both of you must discuss. It will help you to align your expectations with one another. The importance of being on the same page with the one you are dating cannot be underestimated. Use this opportunity to give your relationship a direction. 

Ask your girlfriend about her expectations by opening up to her in one of the following ways:-

• "Babe, you mean the world to me and I would like to know if there is anything that I can do better to make this experience priceless for you?"
• "No one has ever meant something to me the way you do. I mean it, baby. My nights are sleepless when I know that I've upset you." Please don’t shy away from telling me how I can become a better boyfriend for you.”
• “I’ve felt that I am constantly failing in keeping you happy. I am unable to comprehend where am I failing you exactly. I feel that an open-hearted conversation will do both of us good here. I am up for any challenge that might show up our way. I want you to know and remember that I love you.”

#8 You forgot a special day 

If you forgot a special day of your girlfriend, such as her birthday, seeking forgiveness and making her let go of this mistake is going to be much more difficult than you can imagine. It might have happened a week back but every time you err, she is going to bring back the topic. 

It might annoy you to think that your girlfriend isn't letting go of one incident, but you need to understand that she was keeping high expectations from you in this regard and you spilled water in all of it at once. 

The best way to apologize here is to recreate that day for her and make it meaningful. Plan a great itinerary or give her a surprise party by inviting all her friends. Take her to a beach and spend the night under the starry sky. Make it as dreamy as you can, and you will be forgiven. Girlfriends know how to forgive when they see genuine efforts. 

#9 You are not mindful of your words and hurt her 

If you often compare your girlfriend with other girls, you might not be aware or she might not show it at once but you hurt her sentiments. Think twice before you speak. Your words should not be so heavy that it weighs her down. Don't express a wish to change her. 

She will be the same woman when she started dating you. She can improve her abilities in time but that has to be a voluntary decision. If you indeed want to push her ahead, do so by leading by example. 

Personify the attributes that you intend to instill in her. It will make her mindful of her choices and ease the process with the time you spend with each other. Remember, before wishing upon your girlfriend to be the ideal woman, be the ideal man who is worthy of such a woman. Stay steadfast in your commitment, and you will be able to make your way to a better future together.

#10 You are taking a vacation 

If you are going alone on a vacation, leaving your girlfriend back in town without asking her if she would like to join you, it is her right to get pissed off at you. If you are going with your friends and yet you didn't include her by stressing the need to have her by your side enough, she might get ahead on a non-cooperative motion with you. 

Hence, always pre-plan stuff in such a way that you take your girlfriend into confidence and that she doesn't mind much as to what you decide on doing and not doing in her absence. It takes time but you will always be able to figure out a way to find your way around your girl. The best way is to familiarize yourself more with her habits and desires.

#11 You lied to her 

If you lied to your girlfriend about something, even if that thing was favorable to her, she would be hurt. It will take a long time before she trusts you again. Moreover, if your lie was told because you feel that your girlfriend is too sensitive, she will start concealing her feelings from you, which in turn will keep her agitated.

Hence, rather than telling lies to your girlfriend, it is recommended that you help her in confronting the truth. It might be bitter and stink in the short term but in the long run, it will enable you to gain a trustworthy partner and become one yourself for her. 

She will be able to trust you, support you, take you privy to her secrets, make you her partner in crime for good, and eventually, she will even place you before her friends on her list of priorities. You will have to earn that space, bear that in mind always.

#12 She has trust issues 

If you are in a new relationship with someone who has trust issues, you will have to take mind full steps ahead. Your every move should be such that it helps you make a better future with your partner. There is nothing more important than gaining the complete trust of your girlfriend.

Some of the quick ways to make your girlfriend comfortable and confident and gain her trust are shared below:

• Sharing the social media account passwords: Though it might feel like an extreme step at first, if you are very confident that this is the woman you want to be to keep on your side for the rest of your life, it is a very small step in that process. Most relationship conflicts occur these days due to social media accounts comments direct messages and stalkers. By sharing your password with your girlfriend you are giving her absolute control over your social media life and your virtual reality and thereby declaring to her that she means the world to you.
• Respect your girlfriend's opinion and decisions: allow your girlfriend to have the upper hand in the decision-making process. Do things her way. Even if the decisions are wrong and you have given your opinions but ultimately done things the way she likes it, from next time onwards she will find you a more reliable source for decision-making. It is okay to let the other person make mistakes because only then you will get the opportunity to leave them in the right direction.
• Be available for her round the clock even if it is not in your comfort zone: This will be a clear sign that you hold her to be among the most important people in your life. This will enable her to call you first if she is in any mess, she will prefer to call you and share it with you. Make your relationship from the beginning such that the graph only moves upward.

#13 You stalk other women 

If you stalk other women openly, you are a lucky guy that your girlfriend hasn’t parted ways with you yet. It is for the best that you take your lesson and mend your ways before it is too late. If you aren’t serious with your girlfriend, it is about time that you stop toying with her heart. 

If your girlfriend continues to date you even after you have put up with the worst of your behavior, she might be having greater motives for doing so. It is best to confront and ask her about it, but the chances are that she will tell you that she loves you that much. Else, observe her behavior and interactions with you and with other people. Instead of stalking other women, stalk your woman to know the social status that she carries.

#15 You only show her affection in public 

If you are still hesitating in sharing your comfort zone with your girlfriend in a way that when you are in public, you show her affection but when you are sharing a private space, you don’t get intimate, your girlfriend might get seriously puzzled by your behavior. In such contexts, it is better to disclose your reservations if you have any. 

If your girlfriend is coming to you full-fledged with hope and love, but you disappoint her by giving a half-hearted response or reaction, she will be disheartened. The moment will get awkward because she will not be able to tell you openly what is it that has been limiting her. It will become a challenging situation that might take an ugly form and shape later. Hence, it is wise to avoid such juvenile behavior and rather come across as someone matured enough to take a girl out. 

#16 She's stressed or overwhelmed

There is a possibility that what you are experiencing with your girlfriend is an instance of displaced aggression. Your girlfriend isn’t quite mad at you. It is something at her workplace, between her friends, or among her colleagues that is troubling her. Perhaps ask her about how is life going at the workplace or talk about her friends to help her open up in the given context.

In a young relationship, candidness regarding personal problems or a confession regarding wrong decisions and choices made is hard to speak of. Moreover, it makes one so low-spirited that we also begin to doubt everything that has been going well in life. As a result, your girlfriend might begin to doubt your equation and unnecessarily make the scene difficult for you. 

A good escape from the downtrodden path and an easier way to gain her trust is by walking her through your five-year plans with her. Show her the future that you have in mind for both of you. When she sees that you care enough to chart a future with her, the dark hovering clouds of skepticism will burst away.

What to do when your girlfriend gets mad at you easily?

A calm conversation will help you a great deal. Tell her that you need her help in understanding the problem and challenges that she is facing. Remind her about your love by kissing her forehead and gifting her flowers. 

To know more, continue reading below. 

#1 Spend quality time with her 

The solution to almost every problem in a relationship is to spend quality time with each other. It will help you to discuss and understand the shortcomings. Having shortcomings in a relationship is not a fearful prospect. It is good news. It means that you are going somewhere. 

Most people in relationships are stagnant without their knowledge. You are not one of them. You are charting your way forward with your girlfriend. Problems will be there, nothing is flawless. 

The ability to handle problems and get above them counts as the real deal. Spending time with your girlfriend will get you there and will enable you to understand where it has all been going wrong or what is it about your behavior and conduct that upsets her so much. 

#2 Talk to her 

If you feel that there is something that your girlfriend isn't talking to you about, talk to her about it. Ask her all the difficult questions about all kinds of stuff. Show yourself in the bad picture if need be. 

Ask her if there is anyone she feels jealous or uncomfortable with, if there is any particular behavior that she doesn't like, tell her to give you feedback about what kind of a boyfriend you are and ask her how you can become better for her. 

Your questions should carry the weight that you desire to become better and grow into a more lovable human. Seek her help for the same. Try not to get so carried away by it that you begin to point out flaws in her. 

Give her that leverage and work on improving your boyfriend-behavior. You will see that rest everything will itself fall in place. 

#3 Be more empathetic 

Try to put yourself in your girlfriend's shoes and see the situation here. Is there anything in particular that might make things difficult for her? Has she given you enough hints about the same? 

Do you check the timing and think about what might be going on in your girlfriend's mind or what she might be feeling about something in particular when you tell her things? Do you ask her feedback about it or tell her that you are about to share something taxing, if she is up for it? 

It is a good practice to declare what you are about to do before you do it. Try not to keep the surprise element too much on the surface. Make things subtle to take your girlfriend's response first on the case. If it is favorable, you can widen the scope and talk more candidly. If not, take your time to reveal things slowly. 

The subject matter over here might include your past, your vacation plans, awkward colleague interactions, or anything that might be a bit dicey. It is for the best to stay prepared than to bring things up in an awkward manner.

#4 Give her space 

If you are a jealous boyfriend who doesn't give space to his girlfriend and gets into a fight if she talks or hangs out with her guy friends, your girlfriend might start getting suffocated in the relationship. 

Being possessive in the relationship is essential but should be limited up to a mark. If it is below the mark, your girlfriend might think that you don't take her seriously. If it is above the mark, it would show that you don't have a life outside of your girlfriend. 

Hence, strike a balance between giving space and limiting the upper mark to things beyond toleration. When the ground rules are set, you both will become mindful of your conduct.

#5 Apologize for your misconduct or unavailability 

If you have not been able to stick around much, your girlfriend might forget the feeling of how it feels like to be in a relationship. It is important to take time and parts to celebrate your relationship. 

As such, observing days such as the monthly anniversary makes sense because it brings you a mandatory day when you must spend time with each other. However, for the time when you weren't around, it is better to show your regret in a more materialistic form. 

Sending a sorry card, writing a sorry letter, sending flowers, or fixing a dish to apologize for your behavior will take you forward in the right manner.

#6 Be the man she thought she was dating 

If the constant reason your girlfriend gets so easily annoyed by you is that she feels you have changed and that you don't care for her like you used to, perhaps introspect and try to be the man you were when you started dating her. 

The easy way to do this is by recreating memories, your first date, and more. The sustainable way to do this is by remodifying your behavior and aligning it with things that you were when you tried to impress her and date her. We all change, it is a part of love. But something should always remain constant. Your love for your girlfriend and how she thinks of you should be among these things. 

#7 Seek professional help 

If you are experiencing a lot of turbulence in your relationship, perhaps you might want to take professional help. It will enable both of you to lash out in the presence of a third person and figure out what your heart wants in the process. Remember, a counselor helps you to figure out your path to resolution. They won’t force their choice on you or tell you what is right and what is wrong. 

Try to talk to your girlfriend about this. Don’t enforce her to do anything. Give her time to come to a decision. If she deems it fit, and you both feel that it is worth it, then you go for it. If not, perhaps take your time off for a while, practice detachment, and see how it goes.

Tips 

• Offer your girlfriend a glass of water. Help her in calming down. Kiss her forehead. Pull her cheeks. Stroke her chin and pat her head. Tell her that she means life to you. Bare your heart before her. She will melt, and kiss you back.
• Don’t overthink situations. If your girlfriend is agitated, it doesn’t mean you have to give an impromptu reaction. You can always take it one step at a time. Allow her the time to recover and prepare for what is to follow. Impress her with the change that she desires. Love conquers all, if you love her deeply, she will come around.