When He Touches Your Stomach: What Does It Mean?

Touches speak louder than words. When a guy touches you intimately, he initiates certain sensations that reverberate through your body and take you to an episodic trance of a pleasurable ride. Whether the touch and pleasure are momentary or intended to be long-term is something to make out. 

If he touches your stomach and leaves you perplexed without uttering any words, this blog post is for you. Here, I will help you figure out the possible reasons behind his touch and the appropriate reactions from your end. Continue reading below to know more. 

Reasons why a guy touches your stomach 

He feels closer to you when he does so. Stomachs are sensitive and provide enough room for sensations. The deliberate stroke might be to see your reaction. If you get excited and warm, he might try to get cozier. 

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#1 He cares for you

The stroking stomach could be a protective gesture. He does it because he cares for you. It can be synonymous with stroking or patting one’s back in appraisal. It is done more so if you are unwell, like when Penny does to Sheldon when he is unwell in Big Bang Theory. 

However, if this stroke isn’t coming from someone close who has done it before or knows that you like getting it done, then it is uncalled for. You will have to talk it out with the person who is doing this. Understand if it was a mistake. Make him apologize for it. 

Certain liberties are not to be taken unless granted from the front. If he touched your stomach while dancing, he was trying to pull you near. It is advisable to stay alert and be careful if you haven’t dropped a hint to show him that you find him attractive. Try to understand the feelings that he wants to arouse when he is touching you. Is he trying to compliment your figure or is he trying to make you conscious of your excessive fat accumulation? You will understand it by analyzing how he touches you. Whether it arouses you and helps him to take your body against his to initiate a vibration down your body or it disgusts you. It will tell more about your feelings for him than about his feelings for you.

#2 He wants to get intimate with you 

Perhaps the guy wants to make you feel loved, woo you by loving all parts of your body, and by breaking the stereotype. However, the time and location are of excessive importance here. If he does it in public in the afternoon, it is not acceptable. If he does it in public at a night party where everyone around him is busy making out with each other, it can be considered acceptable, however, even in this case, he should have sought consent before making body contact. 

If it is done in a closed bedroom where you have led him, this shows that his mind is wrapped with certain intimate ideas which might be the result of the impressions that you have given him. 

If you didn’t intend to give such impressions, perhaps, make it clear before it is too late. 

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#3 It is a gesture of emotional connection and trust 

If you are in a panic or nervous, about to have a breakdown, or you lost someone or some meaningful opportunity, the guy might be trying to provide you with emotional support with this gesture. The need for an emotional connection and the need for building trust arises all the more if you are pregnant. 

It gets worse if this guy isn’t the father and the actual guy you slept with has abandoned you and gone astray – a certain someone with whom you don’t want to keep any further connection. Though your morals would dictate you to inform him if you intend to go ahead with the pregnancy, deep down you might be shaking with fear. 

If this guy is a doctor, or a friend, or that guy’s friend, he is doing this to make you feel safe. Mind you, this does not mean or imply that he is interested in you or the baby. It might just be a superficial gesture to comfort the other person. 

He might even kiss your forehead. Unless he looks you into your eyes, kisses your lips, and tells you that he loves you or is fond of you, don’t make a serious business out of this. 

#4 It is his fetish 

People have all kinds of fetishes. Perhaps while touching your stomach, the guy might be thinking of demolishing it with his kisses and more. If he gets a hard-on while he is touching your stomach, you will sense the impact and control of his desires in his eyes. 

If this doesn’t come across to you as passionate or makes you feel wanted, and desirable so much that the urge is irresistible and you intend to lead him on, do so. But if you have an iota of doubt, if you are committed to someone else, or for some reason don’t want to get ahead with it right now, tell him to wait. 

This will also act as a good test. If he respects your decision but lingers along closer till the moment you feel better, you should give him a chance. If he readily moves on with someone else, you are better without him. 

#5 You adore his touch 

If the guy sees it in your eyes and your body language that you enjoy his touch, he might be pushed forward to do it more. It also means that he enjoys it very much. Therefore the look and the attempt. He is well aware that if you don’t feel comfortable, you will not entertain it. 

Guys are great at thinking too noble and highly of themselves. When you allow a guy to remain in persistent contact with you, he will secure an advantage from it. Remember, the ultimate motive of all men is to get into your pants. The task gets easier and more convenient when they don’t have to beg you to spread your legs. So whatever string of reactions you initiate at that moment, will be taken to be deliberate by him. He will channel his workmanship on you accordingly.

#6 You pretend like nothing is happening 

If you pretend to be oblique to his touch, his curiosity might make him wild and thrust into him an innate need to explore your body. He gets encouragement from your indifferent behavior. He might even accept it as a challenge to secure your attention and get you flowing down there. 

Ask yourself your intentions before asking him about his. Why did you not resist his touch or show a face of discomfort? Does it imply that you always found him attractive? If yes, then why not accept it? 

Get your ground of reasonings sorted. More than half of the problems will be sorted when you know or when you can say with confidence what it is that you want. Your desires, wishes and comfort are of prime importance in this case. A guy will not cross his limits unless he has been encouraged by you or has perverse motives.

#7 You drive him crazy 

If you are always on his mind, he wouldn't want to miss any chance of holding you closer. It is an infantile obsession. He is infatuated with the idea of making love to you. That has driven into him certain notions and made him feel hot for you. 

This will be natural if you are stylish and popular. Being someone who is desired by all the guys out there, you should be too shocked by this sudden action. Perhaps no one before had shown the audacity to get comfortable with you. If you feel that he has crossed his limit, show him his right place. 

You need not get aggressive at first. It is better done gracefully and quietly. But if the impact has a reverse reaction then use your power to tame his boldness. Either way, maintaining a boundary to avoid such instances in the future is highly recommended.

#8 It is accidental 

If it happened in a moving bus or an area prone to stampede, you might want to excuse him. It might be accidental. Over here, it is wise to notice the frequency and the period for which he maintains the touch. 

If it is repetitive and the guy unapologetically keeps on banging into you without attempting to change his posture or getting embarrassed about it, then it is a deliberate move. 

Figure out which one it is. It is offensive when this comes from a stranger. It should not be ignored. You should confront him, and if needed, report his behavior to the immediate authority, so that he refrains from doing it next time. 

#9 You are submissive 

If you allow the guy to control you, he will try to take advantage of you. He might get greedy in bed and focus less on ways that will please you more. He might even have seen a change in your behavior when he runs his palm on your stomach. If it helps him to control you better, he will do so. 

Figure out your requirements in the given case. If you are making out or intend to do so, talk to him about things that you enjoy more. Whether it is foreplay, the main action, or striking a balance between the two, tell him about it. 

If you enjoy being submissive, it is okay to allow him to control you if you trust him enough that he will not hurt you in the process. If you like to dominate, then turn the table and take control. It is that simple. 

When you see that the guy doesn’t respect your wishes or maintains the boundary, it is not wise to get intimate with him. Study the behavior to understand how things will be with him if you take it forward. 

#10 To make you feel confident under your skin 

If you have been subjected to body shaming, he wants to stand with you and support you. That could help you understand why he is touching your stomach because he is not ashamed or embarrassed to do so. Body empowerment has become the talk of our generation. 

Everyone is conscious of it. Everyone is eating better, trying to figure out ways to make their meal more protein concentrated, and hitting the gym to make their body more agile. It has not only become a rating on the beauty card but has been regarded more seriously on the health card. 

People have become more prone to heart attacks than they ever were before. The goal is to do better together – to inspire and motivate all others. I suggest you do the same if you feel that you haven’t been giving your best to become better every day. You will find life more beautiful and appreciate the guy’s gesture. You will also be able to inspire the guy to apply the same logic in his life. 

#11 He is hinting at friends with benefits 

Perhaps the guy is hinting at a friends-with-benefit equation because of the level of comfort you share. He might not be ready to take a big loop to a direct relationship yet. He wants to take small progressive steps rather than giant risky steps.

It will help you to check each other’s compatibility on many fronts. From how emotional you are, how much you enjoy with each other, what are your requirements with each other as a prospective dating partner, how you handle insecurity, what leads you on, what pulls you back, what is the most attractive quality, what to do bring at the table as a girlfriend; this is basically like a phase of initiation or the rights of passage which you undergo to analyze your needs and requirements from a person. It enables you to know yourself better. 

Hence, after this stage, if you move on to a relationship with the guy, you will be shining in confidence. Whereas, if you find someone else, you would be more aware of the kind of shortcomings that you won’t readily accept in a person. To know more, click on the link below.

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What does the situation tell you when he touches your stomach?

It is essential to read a given situation. As such, the time and place become important referral points for a clear understanding of the vibe and the impulse that might have encouraged him to behave in a certain way.

I have discussed different contexts (e.g., a date, a casual hangout, a party, etc) below to help you decode the pragmatic impetus and the psychology at force here.

What is the general atmosphere or vibe when he touches your stomach? 

If the man gets swayed by the situations and circumstances involuntarily, he is a person who lacks depth in his character. He is doing something just because it is convenient to do that thing. He doesn’t try to meet your eyes with depth to understand your wish. 

Hence, if you were with the guy at a friend’s party or a club or perhaps at the movies, he might have touched your stomach primarily because he wasn’t thinking (which is not excusable) and secondarily because he was overconsumed by a sense of awe, a need or strong desire to romantically ravish you at that moment. 

You, as such, became the vessel where he intends to deposit his passion. If you decide to make out, it will turn out to be one of a kind. You will cherish it and relapse back to this moment time and again. However, the chance that the very next day he might not wish to acknowledge the facts about last night is also very much possible. 

You should be prepared for surprises. It could turn out to be favorable in the sense that he wakes up in the morning and the first person that he thinks about is you and he doesn’t want to withdraw the thought. He will instantly drop you a text to check on you and if you feel the same way about him. 

Think about Monica and Chandler from FRIENDS over here. The first time they made out with each other, they were on vacation to Paris to attend Ross’ wedding. When they did it, they realized the vast scope of dating each other. Eventually, they could profess their love for each other and if anything, it only made them proud of their decision.

What is the nature of your relationship with this person? 

It is important to analyze your relationship with the guy. If a stranger takes the liberty to touch your stomach, it will be regarded as offensive, out of line, and perverse. Your first instinct would be to slap him rather than try to get to the reason why he is doing it. 

However, when a guy friend touches your stomach, it gives you mixed feelings and makes you anxious. You wonder if he likes you or whether he is attracted to you. Your mind buzzes with a plethora of questions. Deep in your heart, you are aware that the only way out of this situation is to sit it through patiently. 

If your boyfriend touches your stomach, it is the way he holds you by your waist. He is doing so because he is fond of you. Use the situation to help to understand the impulse closely. If he did it while you were engrossed in something romantic such as watching a romantic movie, listening to a romantic tune, or dancing with you, it is because he loves you and cares for you. A more intimate gesture of a burning desire would have been crawling his hand in your inner thighs. The reason why he didn’t do such a thing is because he wants you to know that the source of his lecherous obsession for you is enfolded in the beauty of his love for you. If you guide him hands down, he will probably seize the opportunity and make love to you. 

If such a thing is done by your husband, it might show a latent desire within him to impregnate you with his baby. Think about it. Has he mentioned his desire to become a father? What has been your opinion about embracing motherhood? Does he actively renounce using safe means of making out with you? All this points out his strong irk and desire to have a baby and start a family in the traditional scheme of ways with you. 

If a guy who you treat as a friends-with-benefits is doing this with you, it might indicate a fetish. You can talk to him about it and ask him what touch and stroke mean. What is he thinking? If you force him into admitting it strongly, he will make his confession.

What is the context of the conversation or activity when he touches your stomach? 

• If the context was a stomach ache, he might have touched your stomach to examine it. 
• If the context was your belly fat or a reduction in the same, he might have touched it to either show protection or to tease you. 
• If the context was pregnancy, he might have touched it to feel the fetus. 
• However, if it happened out of context then it raises concern. If it wasn’t accidental then it was a deliberate move that was meant to arouse your interest since it was done without remarking, and to make you think about it. In this case, it is better to ask him about his intentions and express your objectives for and objections against the same. 

How often does he touch your stomach, and is the frequency change dictated by a given situation? 

If the guy touches your stomach when he gets to be alone with you but stays aloof in front of others, he is trying to get secretly into your pants. However, he is giving a clear indication that he doesn’t want to acknowledge it in front of people. 

The only possible reasons for such a behavior are, he is ashamed of you and doesn’t want himself to be associated with you, or that he is a person already taken in the eyes of people. He is either a married man or a happy man in a relationship. 

In situations such as this, it is advisable to act with prudence and don’t allow the other person to exploit you for his benefit or pleasure. Don’t exchange any piece of information or any private pictures that he can misuse in the future. 

How does he react if you move away or show discomfort? 

If the guy gets annoyed or burst out in anger, or doesn’t ease his grip and tries to force himself on you when you show hesitancy at the proximity and the liberty that he has so easily taken by himself, he might as well be an assaulter. Don’t ignore or take lightly these early red flags of a womanizer. He is not good news. 

A gentleman would respect your boundaries, seek your consent, take into regard your wishes, and never put either himself or drag you into an uncomfortable situation. When you intend to date a man, go for someone who is a walking green flag. Anything less is below the bar. 

Does his touch feel unintentional or purposeful? 

If the hand is not withdrawn immediately and is succeeded by a sequence of apologies, it was done deliberately. Look him in the eyes, and he might look back into yours without any sense of guilt or shame. This is done either by an arduous lover who is inviting you to mate with him, or by a pervert.

If it is unintentional and non-repetitive, you can let go after he has apologized. If it is deliberate, give him a strict warning against it, and ask him to school himself properly. Learn to be vocal about things you can’t tolerate or accept. 

What to do when a guy touches your stomach?

Express your feelings fearlessly to the guy. If it makes you happy, tell it to him. If it takes you back by shock, overcome it and give him a reaction. Not reacting creates ambiguity and gives the guy the power to continue his movements in the way he likes. 

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#1 Encourage him to be expressive 

If you feel that the guy is holding back his feelings and trying to reach out to you through gestures, encourage him to talk to you. Tell him that you would be all ears and that you would appreciate it if he opened up to you about how he feels for you. 

You can also suggest a game where each of you is going to take turns and close your eyes and keep your hand on your heart and tell what you feel for the other person. While it will have a possible tinge of romanticism, it could also prove to be a great start to a friendship. 

#2 Reciprocate the gestures 

If you are drawn towards him and you are fond of him, you take it as a gesture of love and protection, perhaps reciprocate it with a romantic gesture. It could be stroking his hair, nudging his nose, kissing him, touching his lips, keeping your hand around his shoulders, and many more. 

When you both share a mutual fondness for each other, there is no reasonable ground to defer your courting. It should be done immediately and with much passion. Seize the opportunity to show one another the intensity of love that you hold in your hearts. It should be a personalized expression of nobody has ever loved someone the way we do. 

#3 Draw Boundaries 

If you feel that your friendship is being exploited by the guy, he is taking undue advantage of the same and putting you into awkward situations, it is better to break the ice and demarcate your boundaries. Spell out the consequences to him if he crosses his limits or attempts the unacceptable action one more time. 

Be clear in your mind as to the supposed action that you will take in the given regard. Don’t assume that because you have extended a word of warning, he will limit himself. Some guys take it on their ego to show the women down. Hence, keep plan B ready.

#4 Make eye contact 

If you liked the way the guy touched you but you are too shy to make a move, perhaps just meet his eyes. Look steadily into them and let the vibe do the magic. He might as well lean forward and kiss your ruby lips. What is important here is to maintain a romantic touch. 

#5 Wait to understand if it was accidental 

Perhaps don’t give an immediate reaction. Hold yourself for 2 minutes to see if he realizes what he has done. If he doesn't, give him one of those looks that can make one talk. Sometimes a little push can help in revealing great secrets about people.

#6 Ask him about it 

You can ask him directly why he touched your stomach. Give him time to express himself. He might at first be taken by surprise as this is the signature of a headstrong woman, she is not scared of vocalizing the truth. 

When the truth sinks in within him that you won't bear that which doesn't please you and that you like to go to the end of the tunnel if that is what it takes to understand situations, he will open his mouth and talk to you even if his voice comes out stumbled.

#7 Evaluate your feelings for him 

Before jumping to ask him, or even after he has revealed his feelings for and thoughts of you, you must take time to evaluate your feelings for him rather than getting swayed in emotions and doing things the way he might have preferred. 

To evaluate the feelings, begin from the beginning. Think of how you came across him and try to graph the progress of your equation with him. You will be able to focus on tangible focal points which will help you to unhook the mystery. 

These are the turning points in any relationship. Sooner or later, everyone has to face it either with acceptance or approval or the other way around.

#8 Distinguish between good and bad touch 

Start from the basics. The line between the gestures of perversity and fondness could be fine. Revisit the school seminars on adult education. You should be able to distinguish between good and bad touch. It will become much easier to know whether the guy is a blessing or a curse when you know his motives crystal clear.

#9 Observe him 

Does he touch every girl freely? Is it because he enjoys a social privilege due to his successful career and overall personality? Is he a playboy? Try to ask yourself these questions. 

Observation leads to deduction. You cannot deduce a behavior unless you observe it. When you see that such something is happening with every girl around you, it will dawn upon you as a popular notion and means of chaos. Together, you all will be able to discuss and find a way to deal with the problem.

#10 Try not to get carried away 

For all you know, the guy might just be toying along with you to see how long you will be able to resist him. Once he achieves his ends, he might dispose of you. 

It is happening because you are allowing it to happen. Curb the gesture, let go of the communication, don't look at him, treat him as a nobody when he treats you like a plaything. 

Tips 

• Be confident about yourself. Some signs and gestures only mean awe and appreciation. 

• Be vocal about your opinions. If the other person isn't correcting you or begging to differ from your point of view, it means that you have the right catch. 

• When a person is giving you limited gestures, they have a reason to do so. Understand their reason, and you will get the answers to all your questions.