Signs a Libra Man Just Wants to Be Friends (+My Curated Tips)

The zodiac sign “Libra” is often denoted by a set of scales. It is known to all of us that scales symbolize balance and stability. They signify social justice, equality, and harmony.

Noble characteristics like this are believed to be found in people who have the set of scales as their zodiac sign. Libra people are known to have calm personalities. They prefer balance over chaos. Most of them are well-behaved and have cool ways to deal with the problems thrown at them by life.

Libra men are chivalrous and charming. They are inherently nice to everyone (not just you). Personality traits like this often induce misunderstandings. All the attention and good behavior from a Libra man can make a person think he likes them when he just wants to be friends.

That is where the problem occurs.

You see, the person with the misunderstanding about the Libra man is now full of expectations. They want him to say certain things (which he will not say or will never say in the future because he is not really in love with the person).

Well, that is a tricky situation.

It is also the soup you are probably in, and that is the reason why you have come to us to look for answers. It is okay for you to be disappointed and even dejected because of how things turned out to be.

Unfulfilled romantic expectations can be extremely disheartening, and we empathize with you for that. However, you will have to understand a few things about Libra men to get out of this sticky mess.

You will have to analyze his gestures and behavior: the way he talks to other people and the way he talks to you (try to figure out if he behaves similarly with everyone, including you). You can watch how diplomatic he is around them. There are a lot of other ways to understand the mind of a Libra man ─ to understand if he just wants to be friends or more than that.

In this blog post, I have curated a list of signs that can let you know that a Libra man just wants to be friends, followed by a list of ways to deal with the situation (and any potential disappointment).

Let’s dig in!

What are the signs?

There are several ways to know (or signs) that a Libra man just wants to be friends with you. These signs are not always explicit. You will have to look for them in an ocean of overlapping behavioral traits.

As we have discussed earlier, Libra men tend to have calm and composed personalities. They are balanced (just like the set of scales that denote them). They are generally far from being hot-headed or temperamental. They are sensitive and well-behaved. Most importantly, they tend to treat everyone nicely.

The following list of behavioral traits will help you get an idea of his personality. They are signs that will help you detect whether a Libra man just wants to be your friend or not. Your future actions could be based on your findings.

Try to find similarities between what I have written and what you have experienced with the man we are discussing.

Read on.

#1 He treats you nicely, but he has limits

The Libra guy we are discussing has limits when it comes to you. He treats you nicely but draws an invisible line when things start to get a little interesting. He is very conscious about not getting involved with you in any kind of romantic relationship. He thinks of you just as a friend. The behavior you are receiving is a very conscious and intentional one.

Most Libra men are diplomatic, like politicians, and well-behaved, like regency-era heroes. They look like a person straight out of a Jane Austen novel or the world of Bridgerton. Again, their good behavior or inherent diplomacy should not be confused with romantic interest.

He will walk beside you, but he will make sure your hands never touch. He will help you cross a busy road but will not hold your hand. He will hang out with you but not in a restaurant with a romantic vibe. He is extremely serious and careful about things like this.

He does not want to give you the wrong signal about the relationship you two share. However, the Libra man’s overtly pleasant nature might confuse you and make you believe that he is into you. Trust me that happens more than you think.

Friends are often not that polite around each other, and we have seen instances of that in various TV shows and movies like F.R.I.E.N.D.S, The Big Bang Theory, How I Met Your Mother, American Pie, Hangover, etc. Friends are not polite, but Libra friends are. That is something one should keep in mind if they have a Libra man in their life.

#2 He never does anything romantic

It is as clear as daylight. He will not say anything romantic to you if he is not into you. The Libra man you are so concerned about does not have a romantic inclination towards you. But it may not be evident in his behavior, as we have discussed in the previous point. A person who likes you will communicate their feelings through non-verbal things like touch or eye contact. A split second makes a lot of difference in situations like this.

Think about it. Would you ever say romantic things to your best friend (provided that you are not already in love with them)? Would you take them on romantic dates under the full moon? Your answer is “no,” right? Well, the Libra guy we are discussing considers you a friend (or wants to be your friend). There are no romantic feelings so far. The good behavior that you get is something that you will find in all Libra guys.

Not saying romantic things is the biggest, most blatant sign that he just wants to be your friend. There is no place for your assumptions and daydreams about the initiation of a romance. When you are aware of his zodiac sign, you will be expected to know his nature when it comes to relationships. The knowledge that he is a Libra is enough to understand that he just wants to be friends with you if he never says or does anything romantic.

However, the well-behaved Libra man, who is not in love with you, will be all platonic around you. Whatever physical contact you may have with him will be platonic. You will not feel that spark (the unwritten one that occurs when your crush accidentally brushes their hand against yours). You will not get that butterflies-in-your-stomach feeling that commonly occurs when you are dating someone new.

#3 He is reluctant to spend time with you alone

Why would he want to be alone with you when he is not interested in you romantically? He would prefer to include you in a large group of other friends instead. He would like to treat you just like he treats all his other friends because that is what you mean to him. He will probably talk to you about generic things that only distant friends talk about. He may not seem to have anything special to discuss with you.

Do not assume that he is in love with you even if he opens his heart out to you. He is a polite Libra man, and he is probably just sharing his thoughts with you ─ a friend. He will say things to you, and he will listen. He may say kind words to you, but all that is a part of his presence in your life as a friend.

He may seem a little uncomfortable if he is ever alone with you. That may offend you a bit. In that case, you two are clearly not on the same page. You will feel his discomfort in his behavior. You will see the reluctance in his eyes. He will probably never tell you that he is not willing to spend one-on-one time with you (because of his polite self).

#4 He never shares his true thoughts with you

He will not feel the necessity to share his truest thoughts with you if he considers you a friend. The gentleman in him does not allow him to share much with people. The amount of sharing we consider “normal” is “oversharing,” according to him. He thinks any sort of oversharing with someone he is friends with will be a way of bothering them.

The Libra man overthinks and, therefore, never shares his truest thoughts with you. According to Colleen Fogarty’s article ‘Why Do Libras Overthink So Much?’ Libras are renowned people pleasers. They literally personify the common English proverb, “Look before you leap.” They are extremely careful when it comes to dealing with people (any people).

It is not just about their friends. Libras are careful when they are talking to their partners or even their parents and siblings. They do not want to upset anyone. They have this unsettling urge to be the brightest, most lovable person in the room.

That often makes them closeted. They repress their true feelings. We all know what happens when someone does that. It can have severe mental health implications. A smiling face often hides the worst mental breakdowns.

There is no reason to think that the Libra man we are discussing does not trust you enough to talk about his feelings. Talking about himself is not a part of his personality. It is not in his nature. He is just doing what the other Libra people do. He is trying not to bother you with his issues.

That shows he just wants to stay friends with you. He may have tried to share a bit about his life if you had been his partner or even if he was interested in you romantically. Just being friends with a Libra man is not enough to take a peek into his life.

Here’s why Libra men prefer friendships over romantic relationships

Libra men are social creatures with impeccable communication skills. They are a likable lot as they know how to behave. They are nice to almost everyone. All they want is some balance in their life, just like the set of scales that represent them. That is why they think twice before entering a relationship. They do not want the unnecessary hassle that comes with a sudden lover’s spat. They want their life to be happy and peaceful.

Let’s find out more reasons why Libra men prefer friendships over relationships. Scroll down.

#1 They are quite sensitive

By now, we have established that Libra men are sensitive people who think too much about the well-being of people around them. They are kind-hearted people who balance various aspects of their lives with precision, as their symbol aptly suggests. Libra men try to steer clear of relationships and deep emotional bonds until they are absolutely sure about the person concerned. They do not want to upset people, and they do not want to get upset, either. Their sensitivity attempts to protect them from impulsive decisions and regrettable actions.

• They want to avoid possible fights – Who do we fight with? We tend to fight with people we absolutely dislike, or with people we love. The Libra man tries to avoid fights by staying neutral under challenging situations. No emotional involvement means no emotional crisis (like fights) to deal with. In that case, what can be better than a casual friendship with no strings attached? They will hang out with you as a casual friend. Even the friendship will not be a deep one. Superfluous friendships do not leave space for disappointment and sadness. That is what he aims for even though he is so nice to you.

• They are afraid of heartbreak – Romantic relationships come with the fear of possible heartbreak. Libra men prefer friendships over romantic relationships because they do not want to bear the hassle of facing heartbreak. They will not get into a relationship unless they are doubly sure about it. As I have asserted earlier, a Libra man’s pleasant behavior does not mean he is interested in a romantic relationship. His people-pleasing personality will make a breakup extremely difficult for him.

#2 They do not want to repeat old mistakes

We fall in love.

We spend time with our significant others.

Things turn bitter eventually.

We fight.

We break up.

This has happened to almost all of us in the little time we have spent so far on this planet. Some of us have the strength and intention to move past the trauma. Some people take time to get over the pain. Some move on, while some keep living in the past. Everyone has a unique way of dealing with heartbreak. The method of dealing with such sorrow often defines our personality.

Astrology has grouped the people of our world into segments called zodiac signs. These segments are carefully constructed areas to denote certain common personality traits. That is what we have been discussing so far. The personality of the Libra man we are talking about is the one where he is extremely careful about stepping into human relationships. He is an overthinker.

This happens when a Libra man faces a bad breakup. A failed relationship alters us forever. That is why he is so skeptical about getting into relationships. He prefers friendships because the chances of heartbreaks are low there. He just wants to save himself from the trauma he once had to endure.

Now, this can happen to anyone. Nobody wants to re-live a lousy memory. We do not want deja-vus here. The Libra man’s inherent habit of repressing feelings is highly detrimental in situations of grief like this. He wants to stay stress-free until he meets “the one.” Till then, he will continue to be the polite friend we all love in the group.

#3 They prefer to be free of constraints

The Libra man we are discussing prefers friendships over relationships because they like to be free of responsibilities and social constraints. Friendships are liberating. I am not saying that relationships are not. Relationships can be great, too, but they are totally dependent on the person you are dating. That person has fifty percent responsibility in deciding whether the relationship is going to bind you or liberate you.

• Relationships can bind people – I know many people will get triggered by this, but I think it is valid to an extent. Relationships do bind people. While friendships do not tend to have rules, a relationship may come with protocols. A relationship that makes you feel free as a bird is rare (stick to it if you find one). The Libra man prefers friendship because, for him, relationships are too much to deal with. He is not ready for that. He is not prepared for scheduled phone calls late at night or dates to new restaurants (sometimes expensive ones) every other week. In a few words, he is not ready for commitment. And as we all know, commitments bind us to a person.

• That does not mean they will never fall in love – The Libra man has commitment issues like Chandler Bing. Just like the famous character’s story in F.R.I.E.N.D.S, his commitment issues do not mean he will never fall in love again. He is just not in the zone right now. He wants to explore the dating scene while hanging out casually with his friends at the nearest coffee shop or the pub downstairs. Having commitment issues does not make him a bad person. It shows he is only human. Who knows, he might be better at being a friend than he could ever be as a partner.

The Libra man just wants to be friends. What do you want? What can you do?

Well, for starters, you can’t make a man fall in love with you (and certainly not a Libra man). You can let him know how you feel, though. Nevertheless, be ready for any disappointment that comes your way. Be prepared for a rejection. You will have to accept that he is not in love with you. He just wants to be friends. The idea of consent is very important here. If he does not consent to being with you, it is better to leave him alone.

In this section of the blog post, we will discuss ways to deal with the situation. I will help you in your journey through disappointments toward acceptance of the harsh truth. Let’s embark.

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#1 Tell him how you feel

You are here because you want a solution to your problem. You must have been harboring some sort of feeling for the man we are discussing. It is very important that he knows what you think. That way, you can save yourself from misunderstandings. The conversation is vital here. Talk to the Libra man about how you feel. Ask him to share how he feels about you. You can relax once the cat is out of the bag.

• Tell him that you like him – Shed your inhibitions and tell him that you like him. He may just want to be friends with you, but that does not mean you will restrain yourself from expressing your true feelings. It is like ripping off a band-aid. You will not feel that weight on your chest once the word is out in the open. He may not reciprocate (that is a real possibility) but do not let that dishearten you. You have said what you wanted. If you receive a rejection, you will be able to move on. Not telling him how you feel will haunt you later in life. You should have no regrets like: “What if he was in love with me? What if he was too shy to admit that?”

• Tell him you want to stay friends – Now that you know he is not interested in a romantic relationship with you, you can offer to stay friends with him if you want. A rejection often embarrasses us too much to even consider being friends with the person who rejected us. Do not let that hold you back from having a good friend to share stuff or hang out with.

#2 Try out a few subtle romantic gestures and watch how he responds

By the word “subtle” here, I mean “very, very subtle.” This particular point is only applicable when he has not admitted what he feels for you. You are confused by his polite gestures. That is when you can use a few tricks up your sleeve. However, being subtle here is crucial because you do not want to scare him away by being too obvious with your romantic gestures.

• You can subtly brush your fingers on his hand. Try to be careful about it. He should not know it was intentional. The touch should be casual. Wait to see how he reacts. However, that is not always the benchmark to judge his feelings for you with accuracy.

• While a group conversation, stare into his eyes suddenly for a few seconds. Your gaze should be dreamy. Do not talk while trying this. Repeat the gesture if it does not work the first time.

• Ask him out for a movie. Give him two options to choose from. One of them should be a romantic movie, while the other one can be anything but romantic. Make sure that the other film has a lower rating than the romantic one (for example, Godzilla and Notting Hill). Make him face a tough choice. If he chooses the movie with a lower rating over the critically acclaimed romantic one, you will have a possible answer to your question (unless he is one step ahead and trying to mess with you).

• Try to compliment him about little things like his sense of fashion or the perfume he wears. Show that you have been observing him keenly (but not in a creepy way). Make him realize you are interested in him. That will need you to come up with all the right compliments.

• You can attempt to cook it for him. However, include other friends in your circle in the feast (otherwise, it might look like a date). The special thing would be cooking his favorite food. Cooking for your crush is a very subtle way to convey your feelings. Cooking is a pretty difficult task. It takes a lot of effort. Putting in that effort means the person is special to you.

However, remember not to make him uncomfortable by coming off a little too strong with your romantic gestures. Nobody likes to be disturbed. Do not let him think you are a clingy creep.

#3 Try not to be rude

Did he misbehave with you?

Was he rude to you?

Did he say anything to offend you?

Was he passive-aggressive?

If all these questions share the same answer, and if that answer is “yes,” there is no need to be rude to him. The Libra man wants to be your friend (and nothing else). That is not his crime, and neither is it your fault. Everything is not meant to go your way. You can’t make him fall in love with you magically. He is a polite person. Therefore, it is your duty to act polite around him. Uninstigated rude behavior makes you look immature. You do not want the world to think you are an adult with a child’s mind.

Here are a few more things you should not do.

• Do not start a fight – Okay, so try not to start a fight when a Libra man says they do not like you romantically. Rejecting your romantic advances is one of his fundamental rights as a free-willed human being. He is not the only person in the world for you. You can always find someone else. Fighting will only make things bitter for you guys. It will destroy your mental peace, and your friendship will be ruined. It will only create foul memories.

• Do not yell at him – Carrying forward the idea from the last bullet point, I must say that yelling should not be on the table either. Do not yell at a Libra man (or any person) if he is not interested in a romantic relationship. Yelling will only paint you in a bad light. It will make you look like an impatient, immature adult human being who has no idea how to speak to people. You do not want to be portrayed as that.

• Do not ask passive-aggressive questions – Passive-aggressive questions are a big no-no when it comes to situations like this. Till now, at least he is still there in your life. Asking incessant and ridiculous questions might scare him away forever. Questions like this either make a person uncomfortable around you or make them feel guilty and ashamed at the same time for disappointing you. In either case, the Libra man will never want to meet you again. And judging by his zodiac sign, he will probably avoid you consciously by strategizing his outings if you two are a part of the same group of friends.

• Do not pressurize him – This is something that will scare him more than your passive-aggressive questions. Pressurizing a person can make their life extremely difficult, especially if they are a Libra. As I have mentioned earlier, Libras are people pleasers. You not being satisfied with him will bug him. Pressurizing him for being in a romantic relationship with you will make him go crazy (not in a good way). It can make his life extremely difficult. This kind of behavior from you (or any other person) can have adverse effects on his mental health.

#4 Try being his friend (it is not a bad idea)  

Friendship, too, is a kind of relationship. It has its own boundaries and fun parts. Friendships come with a sense of responsibility for the mental well-being of your fellow friends. It is a place where your secrets will be safe. A friend will be there for you when you are down in the dumps. You will be able to relate to their problems on a personal level.

Making a new friend is difficult in adulthood, but adult friendships are often more profound than the ones we used to have as children. It will be difficult to consider friendship with him, but once you open your mind to the possibility, you will probably find solace in it.

It has already been established that Libra men are gentle. They are good listeners. They have a sensitive heart, and they seldom disappoint people because of their famous people-pleasing personalities.

Okay, it would have been great if he was your partner (I know you wanted that, but life has other plans), but he will be a great friend. There is a chance that you will cherish this friendship. We all need a gentle friend in our lives ─ someone who will never disappoint us. He can be that person in your life. Friendship, after all, is not a bad idea.

#5 Do not share too much about yourself

Do you ever get that numbing feeling after a conversation where you think you have talked too much? Realization of the fact that we overshared can make our stomachs turn. I am sure you have felt that at some point in your life. Do not overshare in a conversation with him if you do not want to go through that feeling again.

The Libra man we are discussing is just an acquaintance. He could be a friend at best. That means you are not supposed to share every little detail of your mind with him. Ration what you talk about. It is totally up to you. Do not say anything that may make you feel embarrassed later (when you are awake at 3:00 AM).

The Libra man just wants to be your friend. At the beginning of the friendship, you should talk to him about casual stuff like movies and TV shows. You can discuss the weather and political issues. Do not share your innermost thoughts with him. That might embarrass you both.

But friendships are supposed to be our safe space. Right?

Well, there is a time for everything. Let your friendship with the Libra man grow to the extent where you can bring up personal issues. I have mentioned earlier that Libra men are excellent as friends. However, scaring him off with deep thoughts on a sunny day is not what I recommend.

#6 Leave him alone if you are not interested in his friendship

It will be best to let him be if you are not interested in friendship. The Libra man clearly just wants to be your friend. You should not force your ideas on him. You should not make him feel guilty, either. You should try to understand that not every polite person is interested in dating you. Do not misjudge his good behavior.

Give him some space. Do not smother him with your presence all the time. Give him space even when you are sure that you will make him like you with your charms (although that is quite a questionable area to be confident about).

Try to lose contact with him if friendship is not an option for you. You have every right to do that. Just as it is okay for him to reject your advances, it is okay for you to forget him and move on. In that case, you should not think about how he might feel if when you lose contact with him. That should not be your concern anymore.

Instead of pining over a man who is not interested in dating you, you can look for love elsewhere. Get into some good dating apps and start meeting new people outside your group. Ask your best friend to accompany you in your nightclub adventures. It is a great life ahead.

Tips and life hacks

A few points to be noted:

• Libra men are nice to everyone they ever meet. They can be pleasant towards you even when they just want to be your friend (or when they have not even met you before). Unlike the friendships we have seen in several sitcoms and movies (where friends roast each other or use hostile words for each other), they will put up their best behavior when they are around you.

• You can thank the Libra man for being honest with you. Like many other people, he could have let you hang on a cliffhanger by not telling you anything about his true feelings. That is quite an awful thing to do. But Libra men are not like that. They care about people and their feelings. However, you will have to ask him the right questions to get an honest answer.

• Being friends with a person you (allegedly) “liked” does not make you a loser. It brings you closer to that person. They say (sometimes even I say), “You can’t make a person fall in love with you.” But being your friend, knowing you closely, and sharing your secrets might make him fall for you. Let’s treat that as a pleasant possibility. However, do not bank on this idea, as you can get disappointed by wishful thinking and building castles in the air like this.

• The key is to acknowledge his feelings. Do not force your feelings on him. Do not make him feel that he is bound to date you. The Libra man we are discussing has the right to choose his partner, and your feelings won’t matter while making that choice.