She Unblocked Me but No Contact (What Does It Mean?)

There is nothing more awkward than being blocked by the girl who at some point in time, you had loved the most. A torrent of questions invade your mind. You get so obsessed with her that you keep an eye on her movements and notice immediately when after a while, she unblocks you. 

Many ideas take control of your mind. You want all the thoughts to favor you because you don’t want to be a wicked person on anyone’s list. However, curiosity kills you when you are unblocked and left without any contact. Why possibly she would do that, you wonder. 

If such a thing has happened to you and you are puzzled into thinking why your ex might have left you unblocked when she didn’t want to convey any messages, this blog post is for you. I’ll help you figure out the nuances of tailoring an understanding with your ex when you find yourself stuck in a no man’s land. 

Keep reading below to know more. 

Reasons why she unblocked you but made no contact 

She wants to move on in her life. She is aware that a part of her mind is consciously keeping you away. The right way to get ahead in life is by confronting the limitations rather than running away from them. Hence, while she unblocked you, she has not made contact with you. 

Were you checking on her to see if she has kept you blocked or did her story pop up in your notification? If the former happened, it suggests that you have had a recent breakup. Since she is the one who has blocked you, it either means that you disappointed her, or that it was her call to break up. 

The possibilities can be endless. However, to make the situation feasible for you, I have listed below the most probable causes that will help you to understand her behavior and decode it. To know more, continue reading below.

#1 She has reached the moving on stage  

If you are lovers recently moved apart, it shows struggle on the girl’s part when she blocks you after the breakup. It could mean either of the two things. The first is that she is hurt. The breakup was heart-wrenching for her. Since you are checking on her, it means that you haven’t moved on either. You are trying but a part of you might still be attached to her. This would happen when you are guilty of breaking her heart whereas she loved you with all her might. 

The second case would be that she is the one who broke up with you out of selfish motives but you were always the caring soul. In this situation, she would either block you to avoid facing you time and again and feel sorry about it, or because you keep begging her for a second chance whereas the only purpose why she was with you was either some bigger agenda to exploit you, keep you diverted or because she was merely fooling around. 

Either way, she does not want to think about you anymore. It is a general human tendency to revisit the blocking list time and again. When she unblocks you, he attempts to begin afresh. This could mean forgiving you or estranging you. Remember, unblocking you can be succeeded by deleting your number in a desperate attempt to erase you and all your memories from her life. Don’t take this to be a sign that she is interested in you or wants to take a second chance with you unless she tells you so.

#2 She is over her anger or hurt 

She has stopped thinking about you or she feels that the reason due to which she had blocked you was too insignificant. However, that doesn’t make her ego of any less importance. Hence, while inwardly, she might have felt that she made a fuss out of nothing, she doesn’t feel it worthwhile to acknowledge her shortcomings. 

If this is the case, we are talking about a vain woman in question who is too proud of herself to see her mistakes. Unless you have much bigger and stronger motives, there is no legitimate reason why you should care whether the woman blocks or unblocks you. 

If anything, it shows a discounted self-esteem on your end. The day you start working on it, you will be able to draw the lines of demarcation more boldly, and people will start taking you more seriously. 

#3 Her lingering thoughts have had annihilating impacts 

If she was utterly heartbroken, she might have fallen ill. She realized that the only way forward is to backspace her memories of you along with your contact from her life. If she has not contacted you, it means that she doesn’t want to contact you. She wants to forget all about her life with you. It is better to let her go when you don’t intend to bring her happiness. Futile lingering around is useless for both of you. 

#4 She accidentally unblocked you 

Don’t underestimate the possibility of accidents. Perhaps she had no intention to unblock you but she did so by accident. Hence, make it a principle of your life to not assume things. Take things at their face value and deal with them accordingly. 

To check whether it was an accident or not, you might try to contact her and see if she answers it. If she doesn’t reply to your text or answer your call and blocks you immediately after, it is certainly an accident. If you are happy staying like this, even that should be fine till the point no harm is done. If she answers your call, you will get your story directly from the source.

#5 She has found someone new 

Perhaps she wants to make you jealous or wants to make you regret your choice by unblocking you and posting stories with her new-found romantic partner. Hold on a little longer to see a change of profile photos or updates of status. If you find them, try not to react. If you want her to get more vocal with you or to vent out her frustration, play the silent game. 

It will trigger her more to see that you have watched her stories but did not care to dig deeper. She might even become suspicious that something interesting is going on in your life. Curiosity kills the cat. By the by, you will be playing her strategies on her to tame her. Everything doesn’t need to be dull or energy-draining. 

If you keep up with the games, you will be able to withdraw yourself from the situations and operate better. Remember, always make your life look interesting and dynamic even if it is not so, that itself will take most of the boredom away. To know more, click on the link below.

Related Read: Why Does My Ex Want to Hurt Me So Much? (10 Possible Reasons)

#6 You are in touch with her family 

If you are on good terms with her family but not with her, it might make family time awkward for her because they are always talking about you, praising you, while questioning her choices and decisions. They try to influence her to go back to you. Not all family members are against love. Ife doesn’t have to be a Shakespearean play all the time. 

As such, she might have unblocked you to talk to you. Her request might be to stay away from her family and to allow her a break. But then she might feel that it is she who is either in the wrong or that she as an individual is unable to keep her family as protected or as happy as you do. 

As a result, she keeps you unblocked as a token of apology and might even fear that you may make some wrong decisions and turn her family against her. To know more on this topic, read the article given on the link below.

Related Read: My Ex Talks to My Family but Not Me (Reasons & What to Do)

#7 Either of your birthdays is around the corner 

If you have been very good friends for as long as you can remember but a recent fight or misunderstanding created subtle differences owing to which she had blocked you, she might have decided to let the moment pass and unblocked you more so because a special occasion is round the corner. 

This occasion could be her birthday or yours, either your graduation day or an event that is either grand or something that you both had been planning together for a long time. If the difference was created between you owing to this, it is all the more important that you break the ice and sort the matter. 

Remember, situations, successes, and failures are circumstantial and in most cases, imposters, none of it will stay by you for life or give you support and keep you happy, but people will. Hence, don’t sacrifice your relationships or your integrity as a character. 

Be noble in your pursuits. If you can see that she has unblocked you, with her. Send her your warm greetings with a bouquet. Show her that you remember. It will help both of you to let go of the bygones and shall set you free of resentments.

#8 It’s your anniversary 

If she is your ex-wife, and your anniversary is around the corner, she might get nostalgic and emotional about it. Your anniversary week might be one week in a year when she loosens herself of all that past between you and allows herself to visit the fond memories. Perhaps ask her out if you want to. 

You both can use this opportunity to reestablish a friendly bond between both of you. It doesn’t have to mean a renewing of the relationship though it doesn’t mean holding yourself back too strongly when you want it from the front and you can see that she is making advances or not resisting them. 

It can take the form of a simple equation free of pretense. You both have already seen the worst side of each other. There is nothing left to fear any longer. You can feel free and lighten yourself of any unnecessary burden. It might dawn as an epiphany to both of you that this is the sort of relationship that you cherish the most despite all its shortcomings and flaws because it is honest to the core.

#9 She wants to see if you are stalking her 

If you react to her unblocking you, it will prove that you stalk her. She wants to see if you are doing that. She might not mean any serious business by it. It will merely help to boost her ego. She is toying with you. If she is a sadist, she might enjoy inflicting pain on you. 

She might also want to take vengeance on you. If you had done her unjust, she wouldn’t stop till the time she had settled the account and made it even between you. Hence, if things are becoming a part of the past, let them fade. In the process of wishing for something grand or romantic, you might lose the domestic bliss that you are enjoying currently.

What to do when she unblocks you but makes no contact?

The best course of action is to stay passive. Be patient and see what happens next. If she has unblocked you deliberately, she will make another move too. If it was done without her knowledge, she would remain passive too. 

To know more, continue reading below. 

#1 Do nothing 

Doing nothing sometimes can mean doing everything. You are consciously being unconscious in actions. This will buy you the benefit of the doubt. It means that you aren’t acknowledging that she has blocked you in the first place to give the impression that you don’t quite care and you don’t want the strings of the past to pull or hold you back. 

In this case, it will be on the girl to make contact if and when she is ready for it. This step is a wise option when you don’t want to waste your time. If you text first or raise questions, she might throw tantrums and call it accidental. But when you are patient and aloof, she will only text you with a clear purpose. She won’t be able to toy with you. 

Being patient isn’t easy especially when you have been obsessing over her and checking now and then if she has unblocked you or not. Hence, you must make up your mind whether you want to play a long shot or you will settle for something that gives you an immediate advantage. If it is the former, remember, the way of love is never easy but you need to stay committed to your purpose despite all the shortcomings.

#2 Give her the due disclosure 

If she had blocked you because you were the one to break up with her and you didn’t find it necessary to give her a due disclosure, it is time to make amends. Stay clear with your purpose. You aren’t doing it to secure a second chance of making anything happen between you. Your purpose is to be in her good books so that you can at least meet her eyes when you see her next.

Moreover, think about it from the girl’s point of view. She might be finding it difficult to focus on her career aspects or might be unable to give her best performance in her initiatives because her mind keeps getting back to the single thought that asks her what went wrong. This is true for all kinds of breakups. 

When you tell her the truth, you are helping her to move on in life. Truth serves the purpose much better than being sorry for one’s behavior and conduct or yelling at the other person to be brave and move on. The impression that you want to give here is that you are a great guy or at least a decent one even if you couldn’t uphold the status of a special someone in her life. 

#3 Express your feelings 

If you are unable to hold yourself back and feel it for the best to talk about your feelings, do so. There is no harm in expressing your feelings. If you feel betrayed and are hurt, say so. If you want to apologize, do it. Welling up your emotions might take a bad form later. Hence, ease yourself and go with the flow. 

#4 Delete her number 

If the situation is way too complicated and your mind is in a mess, do a favor to both of you by deleting her number. She will have to make deliberate and forceful steps if she wants to have a way back in your life. Otherwise, the chapter is closed. This is best done when you like to keep a no-no-sense equation and value your time the most. 

#5 Move on in your life 

There are many ways to move on in life after you have been abandoned by a potential romantic partner. Some of these are: 

• Find a new partner by using dating apps or asking your friends or colleagues to set you up.
• Focusing on your career in a full-fledged manner to secure a higher position
• Changing cities and starting afresh altogether
• Visiting your parents to feel good about life again
• Investing yourself in your hobbies so that you don’t get much time for futile wanderings 

#6 Read positive books 

Reading can make a man. It can help you understand your actions, read the characters, and act with prudence. Reading books will also keep you busy and books are easily available in the market, you get to meet new and like-minded people. It will open the doors to new perspectives for you. 

Quick tips 

• Learn to dwell in the present moment rather than anticipating the future or overthinking about the past. She blocked you in the past, she hasn't texted you yet. Both relate to the past and future. The present says that she hasn't texted you. If you want to change the status, you should text her. If it is harmless, go with the flow and let the situation take its turn.
• Be more focused on improving yourself in every field of behavior. When you look at yourself achieving newer heights, you won't give a penny about the world. If people find it worth their time, they will come to you without any deliberate effort or invitation from your end.