When He Calls You by Your Name (6 Reasons Why)

How we address a person tells a great deal about what we think of that person. If the person is someone very close who always calls you by nicknames and one sudden day addresses you by your first name, you would instantly become restless and find it hard to understand what went wrong. 

On the other hand, if the person was always formal and addressed you with titles, a sudden change in the manner and calling you by your first name would show an act of friendliness. If something similar has happened to you, this blog post is tailor-made for you. Here, I will discuss why a guy might call you by your name and what are the implicit meanings that it might imply. Keep reading below to know more. 

Reasons why a guy called you by our name 

He finds your name beautiful and likes the sound it makes. He is being amiable. It is a good opportunity to build up a cordial relationship with a stranger. 

To know more, continue reading below. 

#1 He is amicable 

It might be in the guy’s nature to be amicable. If you are the stranger and the guy is an oldie, not necessarily old, but someone well-known in that area, he might want to make you feel welcome. He is breaking the formality by not calling you by your surname as a certain Miss Y or Mrs. Z. 

It is also possible that it is only this guy who can take the liberty to be colloquial with you. He is the boss. Even if he is trying to hit on you, there is nobody else in the vicinity who can do so. However, for the first few days at least, and more so if you take him to be a womanizer or someone who remembers a girl’s name only as long as he is not getting into her pants, it is suggestive that you call him “Sir,” and make the formal distinction palpable. 

#2 He is fond of you 

If the guy is fond of you, he has always liked you, he has tried to connect to you over social media platforms, he has always been friendly with you, smiles at you perhaps in a way that creeps you out, it is because he has a thing for you. 

It could be a school crush, a fascination if you are popular in school, he might be compelled by your popularity to establish a cordial relationship with you, or he might be in want of favor from you, either way, the best course of action over here is to ask him directly if he has a specific purpose due to which he is tailing around you. However, ask it with a smiling face so that he doesn’t get offended or take it to distaste. You don’t want to jump into someone’s bad books unnecessarily especially when they are treating you pleasantly.

#3 He is trying to level up 

If the guy has been formal with you for a great length, he might have thought to himself, “What is keeping me from becoming her friend? Won’t things be less monotonous that way? Besides I might get a coffee partner to tete-a-tete with.” 

Well, try your best not to break this notion of the guy unless he is a gangster. Leveling up in the relationship is always a good deal unless the guy has perverse motives or you are excessively reserved as a person. When you ace in the books of others, you become popular. 

#4 He is mad at you 

If the speaker is a good friend or your boyfriend or someone who preferably calls you by a nickname, then he might be taking your first name because he is mad at you for some reason. Recall the last exchange that had taken place between you to understand what might have gone wrong. 

If you feel that you are lacking at some place, or if saying a few reassuring words can enhance the experience for the person, do so. Let the guy be at ease when conversing with you. If there has been a recent development in your radius that might have brought in the need for such formality, perhaps tell him that this is not needed. 

This usually happens when you are promoted and become senior to the people you were hustling along with. Moreover, if the guy is not a feminist, he might take this as an insult. Help him to see why you were a more deserving candidate than him.

#5 He is trying to seek your attention 

If the guy is trying to talk seriously but you are in too jolly a mood to give his words any leverage, perhaps, he is using your name to make it more formal and distinct. It is a way of earmarking you by saying, “Listen to me very carefully. I’ve got news for you.” Perhaps ask him if something is up and he will be able to express himself more freely.

#6 Your name reminds him of someone 

If your name holds some importance in the guy’s life, he might choose to call you by it. Your name reminds him of someone. This someone might be a lost friend or an ex-lover. While they had to part ways, he feels that it is only natural to take your name. It will help him to overcome the deprivation or loss of such a company. 

There is no harm in asking him directly if he is reminded of someone, if he says it does, then you have a good topic to gel up with. This could be the beginning of something beautiful. Take it slowly. If you both vibe along together, you can easily replace someone from his past.

What to do when a guy calls you by your name?

Look at him to understand his intentions. Whether it is to bring you towards something serious or because he is upset at you. Mark his tone and ask him if everything is alright. 

To know more, continue reading below.

#1 Let him talk 

Perhaps he wants to deliver an urgent message to you. Let him talk. Perhaps he is trying to convey something between the lines. He might not be in the condition to spell it out to you but he is giving you strong hints towards it. 

Pay attention to his body movements. Whether he is trying to flirt or say something urgent will come out through his body pose. Pay close attention to his voice. Is it soft or harsh, loud and desperate, or soft and full of warmth? 

#2 Give him a smile 

A smile can put the situation under control and take away the pressure from you. It will enable you to keep the ball in your court without doing anything at all. You are not wasting words as you have no clue about the situation. 

It will also make your conduct amicable. The speaker will be encouraged to talk more and to talk clearly. You should maintain this conduct till the speaker is at ease and has spoken his heart out. You will get ample chances to express your point of view. The first goal should be to become an excellent listener.

#3 Ask him if something is the matter 

If his voice sounds tense, ask him about it. Make eye contact and let him talk. If required, go to a corner, or meet at someplace where there are less of people. It is possible that something is going on in his mind and he can’t keep it to himself any longer. 

It also tells a great deal about the kind of bond and relationship you share with him. If he is taking the liberty to open his heart out before you, it shows that he trusts you. It is best to take the relationship ahead slowly without any predominant notion. When you move along with the pace, the surprises are tasteful and the shocks less shocking.

#4 Hold his hands 

To give a strong gesture of comfort and trust, hold his hands. It will immediately have a soothing effect. If he was getting anxious or panicking out, he will sustain it. Neither of you needs to speak much if you already are affectionate towards each other. Perhaps the tension will take a more explicit and sensuous form. In any case, you will feel better and be at ease when you do it.

#5 Call him by his name 

By calling him by his name when he calls you by yours, you are making the scenario easy. It will make the conversation light-hearted. The receiver will get the message that he has your attention. He need not work too hard to prove otherwise. Whatever it is that he wishes or speak or convey can be done softly without any unwanted scruples. This will lower the chance of miscommunication.

#6 If it makes you uncomfortable, tell him so 

If the designation of the guy and yours is such that you don’t find it very appropriate for him to call you by your name, tell him so. It is best to express your thoughts as and when they occur. In an attempt to channel them, you will invite disasters. 

it will keep you from performing your best at something, it will hamper your understanding of the points and concerns raised by the other person. Whereas, when you make it your goal to not harbor charged-up emotions, it will make your life easy and smooth.

Tips 

• In an attempt to understand the basics, we fail to comprehend the larger thing at hand. While your focus might be on why the guy called you by your first name, the content of what followed was perhaps sacrificed. You were so absorbed in the disbelief of it that the actual point of contact was lost on you. 
• Learn to face challenging and unexpected situations. It will help you to emerge better as a person. How a person addresses you tells a lot about what they think of you. If you want to alter it, then make a marked shift in your nature and conduct to him. 
• If you don’t like it when others take extra liberty towards you, if in general, you are a reserved person, there is no harm in marking out your boundaries boldly. Always stand up for yourself and safeguard your interest as your priority.