What He Thinks When You Don’t Answer His Calls (9 Interpretations)

To maintain a relationship, you must avoid long gaps in communication. Constant and consistent contact helps us to stay calm and passionate towards our lover. However, if you find yourself caught up in a situation where you cannot answer his calls and you wonder how he might be taking it, this is the place for you. 

In this blog post, I've highlighted what he thinks when you don't answer his call and why. I've further discussed how you can mold or break his thought process or thinking pattern. 

Keep reading below to know more. 

How does he reason with himself when you don't answer his call 

You might be annoyed with your boyfriend and avoid his call. But he didn’t call you again. Now you might regret not answering the call. At least if you had answered, you would have allowed him to explain himself. 

However, you might be wondering what your boyfriend thinks when you don’t answer his calls. Does he realizes that you are pissed at him, or does he merely consider that you are busy? Read below to find out.

#1 You are busy 

His first thought might tell him that you must be busy or caught up with something too urgent to avoid his calls. But when you don’t return his calls or acknowledge them with a message, he starts to feel that something might not be right about it. 

With that half-minded thought, he might call you again. He might get worried when you don’t answer his call again. He might get restless, and depending on the equation that you share with the person, he might even think to drive to your place to check on you. 

However, it becomes important over here to consider his station in life. What he is doing at that moment, where is he, what keeps him busy, the time and the day besides the distance and the efforts put in by you from your end, all come into play here. 

While you might want to think of your life to be a beautiful dreamscape, of yourself as someone who is well-loved and pampered, that might not always be the case. If the guy is too rational from day one in his approaches to you, he will hesitate to take his calls. You will be surprised to see that when given a situation where everything is at risk, he might act and come up with grand gestures to impress you, but don’t be so easily fooled. Remember, what you intend to check over here is consistency. If the guy cannot be consistent in his gestures, he is not worth considering as a long-term partner.

#2 You are not interested 

If the guy is not your boyfriend but someone who has been crushing on you and trying very hard to court you, but you neither answer his calls nor return them, he might think that you are not interested in him. If this was your intention, you are on the right path. If you secretly like him too but never told him so because you wanted to take your time before making the ultimate decision, I suggest you not delay it any longer. 

You will understand the situation better if he stops pursuing you. If he is utterly disheartened and doesn’t call you again or text you to understand the reason behind your constant elusive nature, it means that his self-esteem has finally switched on its gear. Now if you change your mind, it won’t be easy to secure his attention or his loyalty for that matter. 

#3 You are throwing false airs 

He might feel that you are doing this just to pretend to be pissed at him or to make him miserable. If you have made it a habit to not answer his calls and then call him back later, by now he must have gotten used to it. This process will disable any sense of thinking from his end. 

Hence, if you have a concern, it is advisable to voice it out. Rather than bottling your feelings in the expectation that the guy will telepathy with you, try to drop subtle hints regarding your expectations from him. As and when you do it, simultaneously, give him reasonable grounds to lay your expectations. 

When you are reasonable, not merely emotional, he is bound to agree with you. That will leave him with only two options: either to apologize and accept his mistake, or be honest and tell you the genuine reason behind his behavior.

#4 You are buying time 

If you aren’t answering his calls, it implies that you are avoiding them. The reason for avoiding someone’s call has to do with buying time. It suggests that you are still in the process of making up your mind and arriving at a decision. 

It also suggests that you are procrastinating because it isn’t on your primary lists or concerns. Hence, you might not value him or hold him as dear or important as he does to you. 

It will clear things out for him without your much doing. However, he might not respect how you did it. A better way to handle this is by being honest in your rejection or disapproval of any kind. Even if he might not like it at first, he will appreciate your honesty in the long run.

#5 You don't care about his feelings 

The fact that you have taken him for granted and that you don’t care for him enough might be obvious to him. It is certainly a sign of disrespect when you don’t answer someone’s call. It also depends on what kind of person they are. If the guy is oversensitive, he might take offense from this. If the guy is pragmatic, he won’t care to make a fuss about the situation. 

#6 You are happy doing what you are doing 

The guy might assume that you are happy doing what you are doing and that you don’t want any interruptions. He might even regret calling you rather than being patient and waiting for your call. In such a case, you will find that the guy's brains overwork him. 

He makes up a story in his mind, justifies himself with it, and draws bitter conclusions without approaching you again. If you did care to return his calls, he might either talk to you half-heartedly for his mind will be too clouded with doubts or he will be too glad to care about the reasons and previous dismissals. 

Such guys are bi-polar and might flip very conveniently. It is not wise to date him as he might not be able to make independent right decisions. However, he will be devoted to you. He will prioritize your happiness and give you space. Hence, the call is yours to make. How does your synergy work, what does your demand list look like, will enable you to make the right decision.

#7 You are seeing other men 

Well, imagine yourself in his situation, How will you feel if the guy doesn’t answer your call and what is the first thought that will flash through your mind? Will you imagine him with other women? Will you think that he is married or has other commitments? 

If you think in any of this way, it will show that you are jealous and that you have a romantic inclination for him. Hence, if the guy tries to secure information in these lines, it means that he is jealous of the guys you might be seeing. 

#8 You don't appreciate his calls 

If you take the guy to be a nuisance, if he is your subordinate or a forceful entity in your life whose presence you don’t appreciate much, he might understand that after all. He understands that you don’t appreciate his calls but it is his job to call you anyway. Hence, he might do it again even if he dislikes it too much.

#9 You are angry 

The guy might think that you are mad at him. He did something that you did not like. It either hurt you or enraged you. Perhaps he was talking to another girl behind your back, or he broke your trust. Either of these takes a long time to forgive. However, if such is the case, either give him a chance to explain himself or come to a resolution. It will save both of your time.

What to do to mold his thought process?

If you feel that the guy is on the wrong track in his assumptions and you want to help him understand your side of the story, the best thing to do is to have a healthy conversation. It will help you to discuss the dynamics and share your viewpoint with him. 

To know more, continue reading below.

#1 Help him understand your thought process 

To make the other person know what you are feeling in a particular moment is essential. Rather than clouding his mind with possibilities and leaving him all alone to delve into probabilities, if you talk and chuck it out, it will prevent any misconceptions. 

The best course of action is to address the issue at hand directly. Instead of going around about it, talk it straight and tell him when are you free to take calls or why is it almost impossible to take his calls after the clock strikes a particular hour. 

If he is mature enough and is interested in continuing the equation, he will make adjustments and appreciate your frankness. If he is a fool who only cares for the immediate or someone who is too full of himself, he will become deaf to your reasoning. It is not too difficult to make a difference, and you would know by instinct whether to entertain or disregard someone who doesn’t respect your boundaries.

#2 Reveal the big secret 

If there is something that you have been hiding from him but you know well that he has sensed it and he won’t cool down unless you let the secret out, perhaps do it. At least the fact that he is so eager to know will show that he will understand it and try to help you out or support you in the ways he can. 

He shouldn’t abandon you after knowing your big secret especially if it is related to your medical health or financial losses. If it is about something that you are guilty of, such as cheating on him or so, then the case will be different.

#3 Answer the call 

The quickest way to sort this out is by answering the call. Why get into the loop as to what he might think if you don’t answer his calls if you can answer the calls? He might even feel that there is a network issue or something is wrong with your device. 

If he trusts you and believes that you will not ignore his calls, then the possibility that you are having a cellphone issue ranks the highest. However, if you do share such an intimate relationship with him, it is better to know his number by heart and contact him by a different means to know if there is something urgent rather than not answering it.

#4 Send a message 

If you cannot answer his calls, type your reason out. Say if you are at work or attending a meeting, send him a text that says so. It will prevent any future confusion between you. Also, add that you will call him back as soon as possible. It will help him keep his cool. Moreover, if there might be something urgent on his part, he will reply to your text by stating the same.

#5 Give a call back 

Positively call him back on the same day to show your sincerity. Rather than keeping him hanging aloof when you give a callback, it will show that you care for him or at least respect him enough to hear him out. 

Sometimes these small gestures take us a long way in building a healthy relationship and raising the bar where expectations take the form of reality and are done effortlessly because you love and honor the person so much. 

#6 Be clear in your signs  

The worst thing that you can do to a person is to toy around with them by giving mixed signals. If you are not interested in someone, be clear and confident about it. If you have developed a fondness for a person, don’t be shy in expressing it. When you are clear in your thoughts and convictions, you help to ease the process for the person in front. It helps to narrow down chances of missed opportunities of doing something that could have been otherwise well-rewarded by something long-term and stable.

#7 Analyze his personality based on his thought process 

Ask him about his thoughts when you were unable to answer his calls. Hear him out. Based on what he tells you upfront, you will be able to understand how he estimates you as a person. If his words are mostly suspicious, it means that he doesn’t trust you enough and that you will have to go a very long way before you reach a place where a stronger relationship can be formed. 

If he is very understanding and is glad that you cared to return his calls, he is an easy-going person who will not give you harsh challenges when you are over-occupied or unavailable. Based on what you are looking for, it shall be your call to make. 

Tips 

• Learn to return calls. It gives you leverage in a relationship. You shall sustain your image in the good books by showing small gestures of respect. 
• Be honest with yourself and with someone who is putting effort to know you more. There are so many people in the world but when a person takes out their time to make you feel important or special, try your best to revert it in the same proportion if not more. 
• The worst that you can do to a person is give them mixed signals or treat them as the second option. Never do that. It is just not worth it.